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This is only my second post and I'm usually very quiet on this board. But, I wanted to share something great that happened today.
My mother is the A in my life and she's been living with with my grandparents since she lost her home and job. They are trying to control her (we know this doesn't work!) and have not been open to my suggestions about Al-Anon. So their household is a very tough place to be right now with her drinking consistently and them fighting her every step of the way. They are all miserable, and I'm very sad about it too.
She went on another bender this week (always stays at a friend's house when she's doing it) and I decided it was finally time to take advantage of her absence to start arranging for an intervention, and my grandparents finally agreed since they're desperate and feeling very beaten down.
So I took the day off of work and my sister and I drove 90 minutes to where my grandparents live meet with an interventionist. We have some paperwork to fill out regarding treatment facilities and Rule 25...and it's likely that if we do the intervention it will not take place until after the holidays, but I feel very empowered today. And I'm so happy my grandparents took the time to listen and also ask some questions since they've never once sought professional help in this terrible situation.
Even if she doesn't accept help, even if it doesn't get better, I'm doing what I can. I'm working on my own recovery. I know what I can control and what I cannot. In the midst of so much anxiety and sadness, I'm feeling kinda peaceful.
I hope you can all have a moment of peace today too!
Working YOUr own best solid program is the best remedy for those we love ~ prioritize you and keep on changing what u can. wtg!
NOT focusing on any one/particular outcome allows the most possibilities. Surrender your outcomes/control, direction to god/HP. If u do go into an intervention~ be sure to express ur feelings & concern. The release the outcome/future -as no one can control that, only our own reaction/s. Accepting reality is much easier & waaayyy more pro-active/constructive & positive.
If u set any sort of boundary or stipulation-be certain u can carry out the consequence of it or it does nothing (empty threats feed the disease).
-- Edited by kitty on Saturday 18th of December 2010 12:40:35 AM
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
