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Tracy


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Over the weekend I had the opportunity to connect with myself on a spiritual level.  I looked into my own eyes and told myself the distroted belief systems that I had been following since childhood ere wrong such as That i was strong, that I had to take care of others, That others needed me, that others pain came before mine and so on and so on.  I told myself that I forgave myself for not taking care of me.  This was a very emotional experience.  I promised myself that as from now  I will be the number one person in my life and that this IS NOT SELFISH.
I even laughed with myself how silly I have been by not putting me first.

Today i spoke to my A from rehab he is doing amazing 4 months in and is allowed home at weekends.  I told him I want less contact just one phone call through week instead of chattting every night.  I told him he can still visit at weekends but I really need to focus on myself and making my life manageable.  I will be honest I did feel uncomfortable doing this all the old talk in my mind was chatting it was selfish but I ignored it and made a choice took and action that was consistent with what I promised myself at the weekend.  My A was great he said it was fine.  He sent me a text saying keep it in the day I love you.  This support meant so much and proves he is working a programme.

just recently a lady on here asked me to identify my needs and i couldnt it made me realise just how much I neglect me.  Well al anon says we will love you till you love yourself, hopefully I am fineally starting to love me.

thanks hugs tracy


-- Edited by Tracy on Monday 6th of December 2010 01:27:39 PM

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nmike


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Great boundaries. We shouldn't fee guilty about taking care of ourselves.

In support,
Nancy

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Tracy
Great share.  It was a real miracle when I discovered that by taking care of myself, I did not have to ignore others.  In fact , I found the better i took care of myself the more  time and energy I had and I could be there for others.  I could give without any expectations  and still take care  of me 

What a great gift this program truly is.

I am so glad you had that powerful experience.

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White Rabbit


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What an incredible share! That is amazing - a great spiritual awakening!


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This is amazing ;) Great work! I too know that feeling of concentrating on everyone else so I don't have to look at me...

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