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(((922))) I know what you mean, I think it is called projecting or catastrophising which I have done a lot of in my life. My whole life. Filled with anxiety and panic attacks... up until the last 4 months in program, I thought that it would never leave. When I begin to "what if", I feel so sick and get really down and fall back in my hole... my Abf is actually really good at reminding me that I am doing that and talking me back out of the hole. And my sponsor too, and Courage to change or The Language of letting go. I really cannot worry about anything but this minute. I can be proactive, but worrying lets fear set in and then everything is thrown out the window. So live in the now and let go of what you can't control, hand it to your HP ;) THat is what I am learning to do :) Take care of you!!
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You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection. -Buddha
The past has flown away. The coming month and year do not exsist. Ours only is the present's tiny point. -Mahmud Shabistanri
Along time ago I was going to stop comming to meetings and someone said to me what kind of shape are you going to be in IF he does sober up ? I looked at her like she was nuts but had to admit I hadnt thought of that . Him sober had not entered my mind actually sheeeeeesh. I had 3 yrs in this program before my husb chose sobriety (thank god ) as I know that it was not the answer to all of our problems .. I had learned to mind m y own business , get happy regardless of what he was doing . Can"t or do not want to leave your relationship * BLOOM WHERE YOUR PLANTED* became my motto . it works . Louise
Him sober had not entered my mind actually sheeeeeesh.