The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Last night I was on the phone with my AH. It became obvious after a time that he was trying to bait me into a fight about money. I remained as zen and as detached as I possibly could, and refused to engage in the drama.
It felt so good!
Thank you, Al Anon and MIP. This was but a step on a long, endless journey, but a step in the right direction nonetheless.
This program is one step at a time, one day at a time None of us got here overnight and we sure aren't going to be recovered overnight. This is a lifelong program, we never stop learning so celebrate all those small victories they all add up to the big victory of claiming our miracle and then helping others find thier miracle. Blessings to you
Way to go Stephanie..... it's amazing how those "baby steps" grow into such an amazing leap for us all.... We are all about "progress, not perfection", so when we can learn to pat ourselves on the back a bit when we do well, AND to NOT beat ourselves up too much when we don't do as well as we would like....
...before you know it.... you are able to see the growth and change in you, and it's pretty darn impressive!!!!
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
Sooo grateful that you brought the experience that the program works when you work it back into the MIP board where others not so convinced that there are alternatives, come looking for help. (((((hugs)))))
Thanks everyone. Jerry, one lesson I am learning here and in Al Anon is to stop being overwhelmed by the immensity of the overall problem, and focus on the small, daily victories and joys. I still grieve for the way things "used to be," but I am learning to be healthier emotionally, and to identify my own role in the drama that had taken over my life. Instead of spending weeks attending my own pity party, I am trying to focus on what I am doing right, and the things for which I am grateful.
