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I woke this morning very conscious that my peace of mind was askew. I abruptly stopped and sat down and counted to ten, then I gave myself a serious talking too.
Don't Lose Your Peace of Mind
WHY was my peace of mind gone? WHY was I struggling?
Over time I have realised it is usually because I want to change others, or I am stressed, or I am not focusing on what is important or allowing God to be in control, I have given up trusting, even for a moment or two, why, because I have become the impatient child. My eyes glanced on an article which was right by the side of my bed and I read the following quite by accident. Or was it? ...
lose our peace of mind for four reasons:
1) We try to change the people in our lives. As you grow wiser you begin to realise that you can't change other people.
The reason you're stressed out may be because you keep trying to do something-about something you can't do anything about!
2) We try to make things happen when it's not the right time.
If you've raised children you know that one of their chief characteristics is impatience; they can't wait for anything. So, grow up and stop acting like a child. There is a time and place for everything. Not everything needs to happen yesterday!
3) We get upset because we're not progressing fast enough.
So learn to enjoy your life while working on your problems, for you'll always have problems!
4) We push ourselves harder and harder.
As a result we wear ourselves out. What's the solution? Focus on YOU and do that with God [your Higher Power].
Hmmmm....guess God [as I understand Him - my higher power] knew exactly where I was this morning and stopped me in my tracks and firmly reminded me that He was in control and NOT me.
Now that was humbling and got me in the right frame of mind. No I am not where I would like to be all of the time, but I am heading in the right direction and once again I have been reminded about my focus in life.
I can only change me, I do not always get things when I want them - patience - when the time is right it will fall into place; I have to stop behaving like a child and stamping my feet when things don't happen/come when I want them too. [This is probably because I need to work at things before they come and not expect them to fall into my lap all of the time] and sometimes, I don't need to push and slog and work flat out...I have to wait and trust and mellow and rely upon my God.
Easy does it.
Suzannah
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Out of the ruin of my past I have found the fortress of myself and I know how to defend it.
Strive for WISDOM; Seek SERENITY; NEVER compromise your INTEGRITY.
I am in the beginning stages of healing and I should actually print out your post, so I can keep these things always at my fingertips when I am stressing.
I just haven't been feeling quite right the past 2 or 3 days and this was exactly what I needed to read! What a wonderful reminder- that I'm going to copy down. Thank you! :)
