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oklahoma momof5


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I'm in here trying to clear my head.... I got so mad tonight.... did not say much, but I'm sure my face said it all.  My fiance (I guess I have to call him that cause I'm still wearing the ring) was out grilling.  He came in and told me that this neighbor lady that I have noticed has seemed kind of flirty with him,  told him "what a good man he was" for grilling.  I felt like it was a blatant attempt to make me jealous.  I know Toby writes about this very thing is GTS.  I rolled my eyes and said I didn't know which was funnier, her saying that OR him coming in to report it.  Soooo he knows it got to me.  I am burning up right now.  He got me right in my jugular.  Ugh!!! =(

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rylzmama


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It doesnt matter how old I get sometimes the games never end. I think sometimes me and my husband get eachother jealous to remind us that the fire is still there : ) Whos the woman with the ring : ) Wow i should be taking my own advice loll


Jealousy in romance is like salt in food. A little can enhance the savor, but too much can spoil the pleasure and, under certain circumstances, can be life-threatening. ~Maya Angelou



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Uno we can look at things and respond how we choose.

It was natural of you to feel that way since things are not good with you two. However you could have smiled and said thats cool. Or no no ya gotta new girlfriend.

Or even well it is nice to have a boyfriend who cooks, get him a kiss the cook apron.

It is ok to lighten things up.Things don't always have to be dark and cloudy. the A disease brings us into this pit of dark.

hugs,debilyn

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That's the way it goes, just when we think we are better, in comes an attack for the Al. Guess that's where the tools come in. I haven't learnt them yet, so still find myself over reacting.

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oklahoma momof5


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Thank you guys!! I came home last night and decided that lightening up was exactly what I needed to do. Plus I thought about it, and realized a) I haven't said anything lately to make him feel like I am proud of him, and b) I actually said something pretty rude to him about his job when he first got home. SO maybe he was just wanting ME to tell him that he is a good man. Cause he is.

Funny thing.... I guess I did need a little jealousy to remind me that the fire was still there. =)

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