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Andrea12


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(((((((((((Friends)))))))))))),

Ok, off the pitty pot took a minute.  Now I am mad....and when I am mad move over......

I am mad at the evil people out there and I will not allow them to hurt me or my children anymore.  If I have to I will just keep filing charges....they will get tired of paying a magistrate.

I am mad that this young man did drugs without our knowledge and died.   I am mad at this disease....it takes way too many people.   Along with it it leaves us holding the bag and I am tired of holding the bag.

I have been holding the darn bag for years now and I am putting it down walking away and pray to god I never have to pick it up again.

I am mad that my children have to go through yet another disaster due to addiction.  However I can pray that a lesson was well learned there.

I can pray again wow took a minute..I was talking to a friend today and she said, "now that's my friend" lol.....I have had enough and not taking one more thing.

Ok, done biatching for now....but guess what that felt good.  Mama bear is back and I will protect my cubs with my life.

With Hope,
Andrea

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Andrea, I'm relieved to hear your anger and determination resurfacing. . ... a step toward progress, action in terms of taking care of you :)

Now just don't ask me to cook for you in celebration.

Keep c b.

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(((Andrea)))

I'm glad you are back, mad as hell and ain't going to take it anymore. You moved the power to your side of the street. Treat them all fair, turn them over to your HP who sometimes wears a blue uniform.

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Dear Friend,

It sounds like you could use a ((((hug))) for sure.  I, too, can get very angry at the damage that this disease has caused in my own life, in the life of my family and friends and in people all over the place.

It's so very difficult for me to trust my H.P. when the circumstances are difficult, long-standing and painful.  It's so difficult for me to keep the focus on myself, my thoughts, feelings and behaviors... 

It's great that you are able to care for and look after the well-being of your children.

I have to keep being reminded to take good care of MYSELF and to be gentle, kind and nurturing to myself.

Love in the program,
Lem

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((((Andrea)))),

I knew the "young" Andrea would come back!  You'll be fine and so will your children.  I'm proud of you.  Much love and blessings to you and your family.  GO EAGLES!

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty smile

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Andrea12


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Kari. love ya but GO STEELERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I'm so glad you feel empowered.

My roommates trashed me to the ground and I got to a place where I was not available for that anymore.

I know I cannot stop people calling me names, talking trash about me but I can curtail their actions and I do actively day in day out.

The people pleasing me is gone.

Maresie.

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good for you, andrea.

Let it out and it will no longer hurt you.

Carol

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Yeah!!!! Andrea.smile

Dreams

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I don't like "mad" because when I use it the problem seems to own me and I get
to be attached with industrial Velcro.  I use to do MAD professionally until I learned
about acceptance.  When I'm in acceptance I find solutions easier and more quickly.

Another reason I don't like MAD is that I can and will take it out on me when I need
no longer be a victim.

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I think MAD is okay... but what I do with that energy is critical.

I've thrown my tantrums and have screamed, "I am SICK of being a victim!!!!" Then I grabbed my notebook and did step 4. My sponsor has conditioned me to do inventory e-v-e-r-y time resentment arises. The goal is to figure out ME and my patterns that cause me to suffer.

The solutions are in the 12 steps.... not in my own head.

So be careful, my friend... ANGER is just one letter away from DANGER. (((hugs)))

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Yep, I get it.  As a momma it is engrained in us to stand and fight for our children and our children deserve it!!

Now for me, the trick was to recognize the anger - we all experience it - and then deal with it and use it in an intelligent way.  I was really good at going off half-cocked and doing stupid things when I was angry.  Well . . . "was" nothing . . . still am!

I love the inventory at EVERY resentment Glad.  I think I will start doing that.  I have gotten a little lazy in my 10th step over the last few months - it is usually at bedtime before meditation and I sweep over it irresponsibly.  I make sure to get my amends out, but haven't been spending much time on the ME part.  Time to jump back in!

Big hugs Andrea.  Another tough storm weathered . . . they seem to keep coming your direction.  You and the kids need to come to my house for vacation!

tlc

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