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F2F meeting tonight about tolerance... I'd like to think that I'm tolerant, but maybe not so much sometimes. As long as my boundaries are not crossed, I am pretty tolerant. Not trying to control anyone but myself and taking one day at a time keeps me on track. Sometimes its just hard to let go of that control and let God, even when I know its the right thing to do. I should have stopped and smelled the roses a little bit more today and stopped worrying about tomorrow.
It sounds as if the meeting hit on an important topic and I appreciate your sharing your insight.
I know when I first came into program, I believed I was extremely tolerant person. Alanon stressed that I keep an open mind on issues and that combined with my 4 th Step revealed how limited my tolerance truly was.
You are correct, Letting go of Control, Focusing on myself, Living in the moment, and really believing that I am powerless of others and that we are all entitled to our opinions expanded my ability to be tolerant
Thanks for bringing your meeting topic here It helps me to think about recovery issues.
Being tolerant of other people is acceptance to me , allowing people to be who they need to be is still the hardest part of recovery for me .. the short paragraph in the AA big book on acceptance says it all .. I can tolerate anyone for an hr * meeting time * I dont have to like everyone I meet but I do have to let them be who they are.. I love the respect that we show others in meetings allowing them to say whats on thier minds and just listen . we dont have to agree but we do have to listen . My sponsor once said to me after I complained to her about a member of one of my groups , she said your going to have to be a little more tolerant of other peoples defects of character = I said why do I have to do that . She looked at me and said well u certainly expect them to accept yours . end of conversation ..
-- Edited by abbyal on Tuesday 24th of August 2010 01:44:38 AM
Thank You for the topic as I am currently struggling with this in my Al-Anon meeting attendance. As a non-addict living with an active alcoholic I am currently attending a meeting that is comprised of 2/3 alcoholics. Out of respect for the group and my attempts at tolerance I feel hesitant to share my current frustrations and pain. I would like to feel more of a connection with the group but fear a basic disconnect.
Good post...for me. This isn't a perfect program worked by a perfect me so I gotta also use acceptance. Tolerance and intolerance are check off items on my 10th step. I'll never have that pefect balance ever and have to learn to tolerate that.
hello shell - don't stop sharring how u feel , if the alcoholics in your group have a problem with it its thier problem . they are often tempted to take our sharrings personally again their problem . talk about trust and how important it is to you that anonymity be respected as your husb has not yet sought sobreity . say what u mean - mean what u say - dont be mean when u say it . If someone takes offence to something i may share in a meeting its really not my problem as long as I don't make it personal. Sharring how u feel is a right granted to us by this program if your watching every word u say ,its fruitless . I have spent alot of yrs giving myself permission to be myself flaws and all - is that not why we are here . Relax and just be who u were meant to be. Louise
