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2. Obsessive thnking is a big thing to address when we first come to program and on going...
--the alc. has the disease of the "drinking" while we have the disease of the "thinking". (also, probably a big part of why the alc. wants to aenesthetize himself--to get out of head). we don't have that same relief, so we go too far into our heads--trying a solution of thinking our way out of something that we basically "thought our way into"--just as the Alc. tries drinking way out of problems the drinking got him/her into. That is a big defect that we can use the steps with and make progress with so our thinking becomes less distorted as we bring out HP into the thought process with us. My friend says"I don't go into my head alone--it is a dangerous neighborhood".
EX: when my worries of my sons get too busy in my head, i try and first turn them over to HP in the morning and then as day goes on and my thoughts drift to the worry place, I use serenity prayer or the tool of 7th step (humbly asking him to remove this...) in my own words, what works for me is to say "thak you God that you are taking care of this --your loving energy and infinite intelligence is working in and thru this matter--anything in the outer is a passing shadow. I remind self-" I walk in faith and not by sight" i do this with a feeling of mentally being on my knees and my thoughts become clear once more. When it hits me at night--i do the same, but then i have a pen and paper by my bed and i write down what it is I need to journal about next day. this helps me to let go because i have committed to myself to work on it, but not while tired out and when i should be sleeping. this is a huge help for me. this very moment with some things that are going on I really needed to hear myself type/say this--thanks for the opportunity to share and I hope it might help someone else to read.
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Wishing all the best on your recovery journey, Luv
Thank you so much, luv123. You have a lot of wisdom and I am grateful that you shared it. Thank you, too, for your encouraging words to my post of several days ago. You are right that it is difficult to be positive and work well when one is too tired and needs rest.
I've been obsessing about my mother who is in first stages of dementia, my friend who has M.S. and my job situation, among other things.
Trust, or having faith, is a decision and not a feeling. That is what a spiritual person said a number of years ago.
I guess that I can't, of my own accord, stop worrying, stop working too much, start resting more, or start giving myself the time, approval and attention that I want others to give to me. So, my Higher Power CAN help me to do those things...and with the help of others like you. :)
Thank you i am obessing a lot and worried and my head goes crazy trying tofigure a solution out and just so upset with fear of the worst. was rel helpful to read what you wrote
