Dear Dash
I would like to welcome you to MIP and alanon.

I understand how difficult it is to have a child who has been touched by this disease.  You have come to the right place.  Here you will be heard and find new tools that will help you live with this disease by focusing on yourself , living One Day at A Time and with compassion for the alcoholic .

It sounds as if you already know that you did not cause this disease, cannot contol it and cannot cure it.  That is a powerful start.  Please try to find face to face meetings in your community and also try to attend our on line meetings held her 2xs a day.  You are not alone and it is so important to share and find new solutions.

Help with finding local meetings near where you live may be found at the following web site:            http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html            Or call: 1-888-4alanonOnline meetings are held in the Al-Anon chat room associated with this site.

From the board click on Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room in the yellow box in upper left of the page.  After clicking on the link please be patient, sometimes it takes a while for the window to open.

Using a search engine such as Google, and searching for Al-Anon can find other online meetings. 

Please keep coming back

Sher ???

Welcome and wondering if this is my friend?
Glad you found us !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please join us for meetings online here in the meeting room... would love to have you
If this is my friend than you already know how much we share in this hideous disease.
If we haven't met yet and I am writing to someone else than know you are not alone.
I too have a son who is an addict and completly understand the need to save yourself as we are powerless to save our child. As incredibly sad as that is UGH!
Again please join us for meetings here they are awesome and will give you much support.
Blessings to you and your family

Aloha Dash and welcome.  You have found the first step both parts 1 and 2.
Step 2 also pertains to him.  I had to surrender myself and my alcoholic wife
over to the care of God as I came to understand God in the program of Al-Anon.
In turn when she attempted sobriety she had to do the exact same thing...so
my prayer for her was "Please stay with her as she comes to reach out for you."
If she had continued to rely of me she would not have made it or even come
close as I came to understand.  I tried my best with what I had to save her not
even knowing that it was alcohol and drug addiction which were taking her. 
When she found the hand of her Higher Power and wanted to get sober what
and how she did it became my only metaphor for humility.

Visualize my alcoholic wife sitting on the edge of her bed on her first day of
rehab with a bag over her head and keeping that bag over her head for 2 weeks.
Visualize her saying in explanation what she said to the person who came to her
on the first morning to lead her into the program, "The bag is over my head
because I have come to understand that if I don't allow myself to be blindly
led thru this process I will never come to it on my own."   Thats a paraphase of
it and it came from an a fellow Al-Anon member who witnessed it.  I thought
she'd never make it.  I was wrong.  There is hope if we get out of the way and
Let Go and Let God.

Keep coming back miracles here are common place and yours are coming.

(((((hugs)))))

Yes, it is me.  Unfortunately, I cannot get the page to work for the meetings.  I have tried several times on both my desk top and my lap top.  I gave up.