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I once thought that when a recovering Alcoholic was taken at gun point from a meeting while on his way from the bathroom that HP could not raise the "test" bar any further. It's true he was taken at gun point (after the fact info) and was gone leaving his Al-Anon wife praying that he hadn't relapsed and was safe. She called him in missing and the car which went with him stolen and within the next 48 hours the car was located and the driver and passenger were told to leave it while the Highway Patrol called for a tow and placed a call to the wife. There was a knocking noise from the trunk and when they opened the trunk there our recovering brother was. "I didn't knock earlier because they were still in the car and one of them had an Uzi." True story and I was working for the CHIPS as a dispatcher that night. It wasn't reason for our brother to go back out so both husband and wife have their unique ESH to share with others.
What's the point and what does the thread title mean? I have a recovery brother who is also a double winner sitting in a Federal Detention Center on Oahu at this moment who has been there for over two weeks; taken from his house in cuffs by Homeland Security...not read his rights, not aware for sure what their problem is and until today without communication with the only family he has; one brother same bloodline and his very large recovery family both Al-Anon and AA. This man is the most unlikely threat to anyones security. He is a professional jazz and R&B keyboard player who had just received a very lucrative gig on a cruise ship in Europe and needed the gig to help him stay afloat financially. Homeland took him at the door to his house as he was leaving to go to Europe.
For me this is a trigger however considering that it was he and not me I have much less to sweat than he does. Even the lawyer who was to help him went on vacation leaving the task to an aide who didn't aide. All of the family now know that mentally, emotionally and spiritually he is stressed out and sick. Prayer always... Homeland Security doesn't know who I am and how very very powerful I am so they haven't called to say, "sorry we'll have him home in a second and will never do this again; please don't yell so much we can hear you 300 miles away over the Pacific. "Don't React...Don't React....Don't React". Let Go and Let God. This brother has about 20 years total Al-Anon/AA recovery experience and I don't think this will trip him up into drinking and using or me either. He's contained for what ever reason they have and the problem is I am not and need to contain myself because I have done some really stupid stuff in the past when I felt the world wasn't leaning the way it should. GOD...grate me the serenity... Just give us our brother back and help us remember that nothing ever happens by chance. ((((hugs))))
I am praying for you and your brother, that they straighten out and get to the bottom of all this and why they took your brother into custody. All will be revealed in its time.
You know what to do, stay with your HP. Stay strong.
(((( Jerry ))))) prayers on the way. Try not to worry or fear as it feeds the negativity, keep turning it over to HP, practising faith and detachment. Everything happens for a reason, even if we dont understand it immediately and I agree wtih Bettina, in time all things are revealed. I guess HP didnt want him on that boat, hopefully another way for the finances will come through.
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It's difficult to see hardships befall those who we know have already had hard struggles in the past, isn't it?
I don't yet have a firm grasp of the HP stuff, so can only offer you the comfort of my new favourite mantra: Life is unfolding exactly as it should.
I remember hearing long ago that life is a funny teacher; first we get the test, then the lesson. I hope you can find some peace and strength, despite what has transpired.
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Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could... Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. - Emerson
Hi Jerry, I hate being powerless too!!! When I have felt angrey, ,confused you have supported , guided so well. Your example has shown me that Hp knows best and to try and trust things are happening just how they should even if our human mind does not understand.
Use your wisdom you pass on so well and chat contect with your higher power for strength.
As sad as this situation is, as wrong as it seems at face value, as much as your heart and ours goes out for your brother in program, HP is in control. From the way you have described your brother in program he has overcome much in his life and I am sure he will overcome this. Both you and he have a power far greater than Homeland Security. Jerry in this case I think you "Did React"-------You turned it over to HP much more powerful than yourself, your brother, Homeland Security, and all the powers that be---Just know HP is at work and in control---trust and have faith the situation will be resolved.
We are never powerless when we have HP on our side.
(((Special HUGS)))
-- Edited by RLC on Friday 7th of May 2010 01:42:26 PM
Oh Jerry you share so eloquently I really did not understand that this is YOUR story!
Times are very bad. I hope you will keep us informed of this mess. For lack of a better, descriptive word.
I know you will keep yourself in check as best as you can so you can get in there and play the game to get what you want! We know barreling in without a plan, considering the circumstances, could make things even worse.
I cannot go into detail,for reason you will understand, but something VERY similar happened not long ago right here in this tiny area. To someone who is my friend.
We are talking federal marshalls, phone taps and more.
I pray that things will come out how you need them to. You have to feel so helpless!
ONe of those times when we must leave it in HP's hands but yet it still wants to bounce right back into our heads!
Jerry I learned from where I worked for 18 years how people can make things into something they are not. This is small stuff however it shows the mentality of some people and how fast a lie or misconception is fueled.
I took 4 at risk boys out to the back of the high school where lots of pe was going on. There was one very large kid and some average. Nice boys. They decided to climb on and goof around on a pile of dirt, big deal. (s5 to 16 year olds) I was watching them the whole time. This pile of dirt was between the boundary of the high school and middle school. There were kids playing in a tall cycloned in area at the M school.
A macho like man teacher decided to take it upon himself to tell the boys to leave. ? what? they had done nothing wrong. He did not know I was right there with them.
I just told them to walk the other way and go goof around there.
Next thing I know the principal of the mid. school calls the hi school principal sharing that these boys were harrassing the little kids!!!!!
I went right to the principal and set them all straight. But it did not matter. I was still told not to take the boys out there. WHAT????? now if they had pe uniforms on or joc uniforms on, no prob. but they were dressed like boys dress, pants below their meager butts, uno.
At my next evaluation I was said to be too empathetic to students!!!!! Like I would lie for them. I worked one more year and retired, even after being called many times to start a new program on my own. no thank you.
There are some people who get highs from this bs. They like to make something into something it is not.
Jerry my heart and standing on end hair goes out to you and yours. I hope things will be over soon and your brothers wrongful treatment ends.
Chances are they will let him go, he will walk home with out an apology.
Be careful Jerry. love and big hugs whenever you need one. debilyn
Please stay strong and yes may god grant you the serenity....I have asked God why on many occasions sometimes I got an answer and some I am still waiting for.
You are in my prayers as is your brother....we live in a crazy world Jerry...I am praying for God to Grant you the serenity.......
You got that right, these people don't know how powerful you are. I am hoping that these fools get their act together so your brother can be released. Frankly if it were me, I would call the media. People don't get to mess with my family. But then I am not as patient and strong as you. Sending you and your brother all the postive thoughts and prayers I can muster. Have faith - you taught me that. Much love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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