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Hi! I have just come back from a week-long conference. I had a brilliant time - took my son with me and he really relaxed for the 1st time in ages. He was issued with his own "guest" badge of which he was so proud. AH answered the phone to us twice a day (I had threatened to send the police round if he didn't!!) and he didn't sound too bad until Thursday evening. He was complaining of severe upper abdominal pain and nausea. We came home on Friday and he really is very ill. His skin is now tinged yellow so I have a dread that he is now on the final strait. He has a doctor's appointment 1st thing Tues but there won't be anything they will be able to do.
Any lurking Alcoholics out there - there is no miracle cure. This is what it comes to in the end. Alcoholics get very ill and eventually die. It's heartbreaking and it isn't pleasant.
I am so sorry. I do understand your pain and have included your family in my daily prayer list.
Tish, reading how you took care of you, your son and your A while on the business trip was an inspiration!!! What a great example of taking care of you and having compassion on the alcoholic.
Stay in the Now and lean on program and HP you are not alone.
I can only offer my ESH from when I found myself in similar situations. I tried my hardest to continue to take care of me and my son, while detaching with love from AH journey with alcoholism. I sometimes lost hope, and thought, "this is it, he will definitely die from this". I learned to put aside my projections, and put in my HP hands. What that meant for me was to be as kind and as loving as possible to my very sick husband. To get him to healthcare when he wanted it. I would ask, do you want to go to hospital if he was in a state to answer. I would take him anyway or call for an ambulance if he could not answer for himself. I found that the many wonderful doctors and nurses were caring of this very sick man and would offer hi many opportunities to challenge the path he was on. Sometimes, he took them up on it. Other times he did not. I just let it be. I realized his HP was at work.
My AH was eventually taken by his HP to rest. He never could escape the grip of the disease on this earth, but there are many who do. Someone once told me, "while he is still breathing, there is hope" and "don't project, just pray".
I will keep you, your son and your AH in my prayers.
The liver actually has amazing regenerative abilities, and a lot of its functions can be supplemented or boosted if the A stops drinking and takes meticulous care of their health. Esophageal varices can be blocked off surgically to stop internal bleeding -- they were prepared to do just that when my AMum went into hospital last fall. They even drew off 2 litres of abdominal fluid to ease her breathing.
So it seems that the tailspin can be slowed even when things look really grim.
I'm hoping for the best for you and your AH.
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Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could... Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense. - Emerson
I'm so sorry about the condition of your AH. It sounds like you're doing the best you can in a difficult situation. You and your family will be in my prayers. Stay strong and keep taking care of yourself and your son. And remember Rocky's words - ¨While he's still breathing there is hope.¨ (((Tish)))
((Tish)), Oh I am so sorry for what you and your son are facing. Stay strong, take care of yourself and remember you are not alone. Lean on your HP, us and all the other support you have.
Yours in recovery, Mandy
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"We are not punished for our unforgiveness, we are punished by it" Jim Stovall
(((((Tish)))))..........so sorry this is happening. Glad you and your son found a way to enjoy your time together and that you had a workable plan for your husband. I read acceptance, compassion and loving detachment in your post, thanks for sharing.
