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Hopeless


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A is starting his supervised visitations with our daughter this week so I had to call and find out when he was coming (i will not be home when he comes to see her, my mother is going to supervise his visitations)...     Of course he automatically started with the "i miss you", "i love you" etc...      I explained to him that I'm not ready to talk about us and that the focus has to be on our daughter right now...     I went over MY boundaries with him and AGAIN he asked how I was doing, what have I been up too..

Everyday NOT seeing or hearing from him I feel life gets better for me and in a "perfect" world I want for him to get himself together (which he swears he is doing) so he can have a healthy relationship with his daughter...    I want to work this program so that in the furture I can have a healthy relationship with him whether it be as parents or a couple...    I realize that only my HP knows what my future is...

Anywho, I went and saw one of my best friends this weekend and every one I came across sad to me how good I look that I don't have that stressed out nature about myself..  = )      It was the first time I actually accepted a compliment regarding myself with pride..... (usually when someone compliments me I put my head down and get shy = )....      

*Deep breath*   

It's a start, right  = )



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Mandy123


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Hopeless,
Yep...Yep it's a step and in the right direction no less. Keep working it. Keep focusing on you and keep avoiding the hook. You did great girl!

Yours in recovery,
Mandy

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(((Hopeless)))

Great work indeed!!!! Keep showing up for yourself one day at a time. 

I loved that in such a short time your friend noticed the difference in you. 

Please keep coming back  It is NOT HOPELESS!!!smile

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Tracy


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Welldone Hopeless,
I know how hard it is to stick to the boundaries, especially when they say they love and miss you.  I have been slipping on mine and its not fair on either of us thanks for the reminder.

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tracy

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Jozie


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((((((((((((((((((((((((((HopeFUL)))))))))))))))))))))

Sounds like a better Name ;) Only Because... When I First got here... My Name was "Missing Out" but today... After lots of hard work, I realize... I'm not Missing out on anything, and Honey... Your NOT Hopeless... You are prooving that by working your program and taking care of YOU ! :)

Your doing great... Way to stick to your boundry's and work your program... Their Issues are not our issues, but having a program that supports you when you have those weak moments is such a blessing... Having an HP that looks out for me, and knowing that THEY Have their OWN HP whether they choose to except him or not, isn't really "Any" of My Business... I Love that this program taught me that... Now I don't have to SAVE Them... But allow them to Save themselves... ;)

Keep up the good work, Job well done ;) Your daughter is lucky to have such a strong, Momma that puts her needs before her own... That is something alot do not get in a life time...

Love & Prayers pray.gif

Jozie

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I have to say I agree with Jozie.  You should be "hopeful". You are doing great.... keep working on yourself and enjoying your daughter.

Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain...

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Hopeless


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Thanks!!!!

I'm going to change my name but I need to get to "that" place and when I do I will change it = )    It's a little goal of mine, lol...


I'm a little nervous since tonight he is going to be with my mother and visiting his daughter for the first time in 2 weeks...      I just hope he is respectful towards my mother....

I will update when I get back = )   

In the mean time I'm taking advantage of this and having dinner with my 12 year old son (not his father) = )    I'm excited we haven't had one on one time since my daughter was born (she is 22 months old)...   

*Fingers Crossed*.....    

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