The aftermath - Al-Anon Family Group

Madison1 · Newbie

The aftermath

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear Madison Welcome to MIP

I am so sorry you have been caught up in the severe dysfunction of this disease. Please know that you are not alone and that there is hope for your life . This Hope includes peace and happiness.

Alcoholism is a dreadful disease and has dramatic painful effects on both the alcoholic and the family . Alanon and this Board will offer you tools to help regain your life and serenity.

Having our own program of recovery allows us to take the focus off of the things in our lives, which we cannot control, such as the actions of others, and onto the things in our lives, which we CAN control, our actions, our thoughts, and our happiness.

Alanon Face 2 Face meetings in your community will welcome you with friendship and literture tht will open doors to a new way of life.

. Help with finding local meetings near where you live may be found at the following web site:

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html Or call: 1-888-4alanon

Online meetings are held in the Al-Anon chat room associated with this site.

From the board click on Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room in the yellow box in upper left of the page. After clicking on the link please be patient, sometimes it takes a while for the window to open.

PLease keep coming back here and posting. You Recovery is important.

lyndebi · ~*Service Worker*~

I would check with an attorney. There are attorneys, thru programs that charge a modest means amount.

You may have some recourse.

Small claims then garnish his wages. Show bills, etc. He then has to prove he paid something.

worth a try. take care of you! My ah did the same thing cept he is still sick. hugs,deb

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome also to MIP Madison...It often happens like this for today in this
disease. Crazy Making!! For today let him drift and come joing us while we
recovery from our very own alcoholic and insanity. 90 days is a short first
journey in the life of recovery. In the first 90 days I learned only how to
get my focus off of my alcoholic wife and to focus on not ending my own.
That worked as we can see. It's a disease not a moral issue. Come
join us in the meeting rooms and sit down listen learn and practice what
we have learned. Get the literature and meeting schedule and come
discover your own sanity and serenity. (((((hugs))))) smile

nmike · ~*Service Worker*~

My AHsober left too. That is, for some A's, their MO. The Alanon program tells us to focus on ourselves, to get into recovery. Keep coming back.

In support,
Nancy

Mandy123 · ~*Service Worker*~

Madison,
Welcome to MIP glad you found us.

I see that you have been given some excellent ESH (Experience, Strength and Hope) from the previous replies.

As hard as it is try to let him go. You may not ever be able to undersand what he is thinking or why he did what he did, but you can control your behavior and responses to his actions.

I would suggest focusing on you. Go to meetings, get a sponsor and work the steps.

Yours in recovery,
Mandy

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