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Hello Everyone, I'm totally new to Alanon. My mom is an alcoholic and has been for years. She also takes anti-anxiety meds and depression meds. She doesn't think she has a problem. The family, my brother, father and I have tried to talk to her with no results. My dad ended up leaving for a few days a couple of months ago. She then agreed to go to a counselor. Well, it hasn't helped either. She still drinks. She has fallen and injured herself several times among other things. She did something really stupid today and it was the last straw for all of us. We are really at a loss of what to do. I'm so angry with her, we all are. I really don't even want to talk to her anymore. It's like she doesn't care about anyone else's feelings, not even my dad. She just wants to drink and do what she wants. When is it ok to say enough is enough? I'm not going to tolerate this anymore? My dad asked her to go stay at her friend's house tonight so he could think about things. Of course he had to drive her because she was drunk. How do you all cope with this disease? Thank you so much!!!
I am so sorry that your mom is so ill!! Your mom has a dreadful disease that you and your family are indeed powerless over.
YOu did not cause it, cannot control it or cure it.
Alanon and this board are excellent resources that will enable you to find HOPE and TOOLS so you can live your life even though the alcoholic is still drinking.
The tools: Meetings, Living one Day at a Time, Focusing on Yourself, Sharing will give you the means to live your life without anger and resentment. Your Dad would also benefit by attending.
Please look in the white pages of the telephone directory for alanon listing They will direct you to meetings in your community. Face to face meetings truly help to break the isolation and enable you to know you are not alone. Meetings here 2xs a day and 24/7 chat is also a great tool.
Please keep coming back and let us know how you are doing.
Welcome to MIP! We learn to cope with the tools that we learn in Alanon. We go to face to face meetings, read the literature, and talk to others. Keep coming back.
Hello and welcome , please find an Al-Anon meeting for yourself and perhaps dad would go with you,u need support from people who understand how your feeling , this is a disease a very selfish disease , threats dont work , ultimatums dont work , tears dont work , shameing dosent work in fact it only makes things worse . if you call 1-888-4alanon they will give u a l ocation or contract number for your area , lt is toll free and international - u cant do anything about her drinking but u can help yourself. Louise
Its great that you and your dad can perhaps team up- go together maybe- just make some meetings and see what you think- attend at least 6 different ones if you can because even though the format is the same, each meeting has a different feel or atmosphere to it- different locations attract different people and its good to find one that appeals to you. Please do not attend one, hate it and never attend one again! Just letting you know that there are VERY different meetings in different places so check them all out. Good luck and welcome, its gonna get better if you keep coming back. hugs, J.
