The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I've come to realize that what I thought were suggestions were actually things I used to "do" for other people.
These days in the reign of let go and let god I do make suggestions and I leave it at that. That is suggestions in terms of what to take for a cold rather than what's wrong with their lives......
Suggesting is something I must be very careful with.
There is a reading in the ODAT that pointed out , that before I give anyone advise or suggestions I must ask myself "DID THEY ASK" That really spoke to me.
Here and with alanon friends, I can suggest program tools, readings, meetings slogans and feel as if i am really contributing to someones well being.
Before alanon I would make suggestions, based on my opinion. I would become insulted or feel less than if the person did not do what I suggested. I am so glad for alanon and learning to respect others.
Being able to support my friends without giving advise and only making suggestions with no expectations, is a valuable tool for my serenity.
Thanks for the topic
-- Edited by hotrod on Thursday 11th of March 2010 05:23:33 AM
