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Carol_Lynn


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I am trying to work thru this maze of dealing with my girlfriend now.

I've been counseled to hang in there with her.

I really want to, but I am afraid, so afraid.

I feel compelled to open up to her as she asks me to.

She can tell that I am avoiding her.

My therapist can tell.

But I am so afraid.

I got close to her last week and got sick.

Too much emotion---it overwhelmed me.

I love her so much.

something tells me this woman is healthy for me, but I am soooo afraid.

I am so used to the drama of dealing with someone who is dysfunctional that I run really fast when someone shows they really do care about me...

Carol

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Data395


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take it slow, very slow.

Express your fears to her if you can.

I know it's hard.

I feel for you.

I know how scary it can be---we are so used to getting hurt and having our trust broken again and again....

Dane

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Carol
Yes,  alanon tools certainly helped with the problem of intimacy.  
Going to meetings, Sharing in meetings from the heart, Getting a sponser, Working the steps  and posting here gave me the power to Trust HP.  Once I trusted HP, I could trust Myself and others.

It is all a process  to be taken a day at a time.  Being intimate in a Healthy relationship can also mean saying  "I am not ready to get any closer at this time.  I must take it slow. "

Take what you like and leave the rest.

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Carol_Lynn


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thank you.

i am taking it very slow.

C.

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