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Rocky38


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Dear MIP family,

I wanted to take a moment to let you all know that unfortunately my husband was taken by the disease earlier this week.

Many of you know of his battles and the many illnesses that came as a result. I knew that he was suffering terribly, that his disease was progressing at a rapid pace, and that we would not have him for long. I had hoped maybe another year or two - I never dreamed it would come so fast.

We are all devastated by the sudden loss to this senseless disease.

Our saving grace is that we know that he is relieved of the torture and is truly in a better place. He appeared to die peacefully in our home, in his favorite chair, after a 6 week spell of sobriety followed by a 2 week relapse.

The 6 weeks we had were wonderful - he was a man "possessed" fighting hard for the sobriety - focusing on addressing the decline of our home - room by room fixing things. He also worked hard throughout last year to make sure that our son and I both knew of his deep love for us and that his love should not be mixed up with his addiction.

Our son is grappling with it, but again, with God's grace, he is able to remember the good things when it would be so easy to focus on the bad. Thank you HP.

I would ask that any who reads this please say a prayer that his soul could rest in peace and that our son will recover from his loss to live as fulfilled a life as possible.

Thank you to all for your support and ESH - you have all been a source of great inspiration to me - whether in replying to my posts or in posting yourselves. I plan to continue on my path to recovery and will continue to seek serenity in al-anon - both in face to face meetings, and here on MIP.

Unfortunately my home computuer has crashed, so please don't worry if you don't hear from me for a while.

Hugs, Rocky

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(((Dear Rocky)))
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son at this painful time.  This disease is rentless and I too have sufffered the loss of a loved one to it. 

Your sweet husband is at peace and I pray that your family will cherish the memories of the smiles and the love you shared.

Betty

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 Welcome back. Sad to hear your news. I know it had to be very hard. It sounds like you had some very good time with him close to the end of his life. I wanted to share another wife in England was blessed the same way. To have some precious time.

I am sure he felt very loved by all of you. We can pray his next journey will be a wonderful one.

Please be good to you. Grieving is horribly hard work. It is so hard on our kids. I am so sad for your sons loss. He will watch you to know how to grieve and heal.

love and lotsa talking will help you. much love,debilyn



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(((Rocky)))

As you grieve I hope you will find smiles and even laughter when remembering your husband, and the years you spent with eachother.  May peace be with you and your son during this time.

((((hugs))))
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((Rocky)),

So very sorry for your loss.

Nancy


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(((((Rocky)))))  In support with you and your son and the rest of the family.  I also hope
you grieve with celebration for the good times also however many.  HP has him without
interruption now.   "God...grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change..."

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Bella333


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I am sorry for your loss.

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(((Rocky))

Praying for you and your son. I am sorry for your loss.

Blessings,
Lou

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Aw Rocky...so so sorry for your loss...so so happy the torture has stopped for your loved one.
Sending you my love to uphold you and your son at this time in particular. May you be blessed with wisdom and healing, that your grieving will be wholesome for both you and your son.

One day at a time. One step at a time. One breath at a time. God bless you both.

with love,
Suzannah
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Rocky, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers.

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I am so very sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family.

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((((Rocky, Son & Midnight)))),

My deepest sympathies on your loss.  I know how hard it can be.  Know that he is at peace.  He is up there with my Tim and I am sure they are looking down at us and smiling about their remarkable women.  They aren't struggling anymore.

The memories will comfort you.  Hold tight to your son and snuggle close to Midnight.  I will say extra prayers for all of you.  Much love and blessings to you and your family.

Much love,
Karilynn & Pipers pray.gif

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Charlie


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God bless you and your family.

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maire rua


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I too am sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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(((Rocky)))
I am sorry for your loss.
You and your son are very much in my prayers. My your husband RIP now.

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(((Rocky))

May God be with you and your son in this time of need. You will be in my prayers. God bless both of you.

HUGS,
RLC

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((((Rocky))))

Peace be with you and your family.  Bless you.

David

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((((((((((((Rocky)))))))))))),

I am very sorry for your loss, I hope your son can grasp all that he has been thru and come out wonderful on the other sidel

I have been where you are.....give yourself time dear friend, my prayers are here for you and your son.  Please keep coming back...if you need to talk I am here. 

Try and remember love has nothing to do with addiction.   He is finally at peace.

With Love,
Andrea

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Im sorry for your loss Rocky, his struggles are over. You were truly blessed, all of you with those 6 weeks.
I wish peace and serenity to you and your son.

(((((hugs))))) Ness



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I am so sorry for your loss.  I will be praying for you.

Maresie.

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Thoughts and Prayers for healing for you and your son. May your husband rest in peace.

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(((((Rocky)))))

I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your son. If you ever want to talk, PM me and we can exchange contact info.

Take care of you and your boy.

love in recovery,

bg

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