A friend's sad loss. - Al-Anon Family Group

Ness · ~*Service Worker*~

A friend's sad loss.

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

(((Dear Ness)))

I am so very sorry for your friend's loss.

She and her family will be in my prayers.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

So sad. We all no matter what, have that place in us we hold our A dearly. We can get mad, frustrated, leave them, kick them out, but we know they are sick.
We all will miss that person we knew before the disease destroyed them.

I know i will fall apart when my ex AH goes. I think a lot of us always have hope they will "come back." Don't you think?

big big sigh. love you hon, debilyn

Tattyhead · Senior Member

I" know i will fall apart when my ex AH goes. I think a lot of us always have hope they will "come back." Don't you think?"

I think that hope is all of us, Debbilyn. At times I think I hate my AH but deep down I still care. I haven't left him mainly because of his dependancy on me. If I was going to, I should have left years ago. However, he is a sick man and if the worst does happen, I will miss him terribly.

Your friend is in my prayers, Ness xxx

-- Edited by Tattyhead on Tuesday 12th of January 2010 12:26:47 PM

Ness · ~*Service Worker*~

((((Betty, Deb & Tatty))))

I think a lot of us always have hope they will "come back." Don't you think?"

I always used to have black and white thinking regarding this Deb.....you have one shot at life and thats it......now? I don't know ... my ason has had such a horrible 'adult' life.....there must be a reason.

Ness x

Jozie · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((((((((Ness)))))))))

So sorry for her Loss, I will add Her & Family to my Prayers....

Love & Prayers to you & your Family as well Ness ...

You Too are an inspiration to many :)

Jozie

Ness · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks Jozie x

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

That is a sadness for sure. I've watched others go out alcoholically and it is never a
reason to celebrate. This will help me keep the Al-Anon and AA declaration in my
head and heart. (((((hugs)))))

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

(((Ness)))
I do believe there is ALWAYS Hope. My son did recover at 19- and rebuilt his life to something I could never have hoped for for him and then relapsed and passed away.

My husband did the reverse-He built his life to a huge success blew it up with alcohol- recovered and came back "somewhat" and passed away sober 7 years later.

HP works in mysterious ways and I believe that hope is never in vain. I hoped my son would recover again, but it was not to be. I do not regret having that hope and acting each day on it.

Have a Blessed Day

Betty

-- Edited by hotrod on Tuesday 12th of January 2010 10:57:51 PM

-- Edited by hotrod on Tuesday 12th of January 2010 11:21:49 PM

DreamsOver · Senior Member

(((((Ness)))))

I am so sorry to hear about this happening, we just can't understand the whys of it all.

We are experiencing some of coldest weather here in the Southern U.S. in twenty five years this past week and my AS has been on a binge. I think about the danger he would be in if he passed out on the outside, or in his car because he sometimes lays down in his car and listens to the radio when he is using. I have found him passed out like this before.

I pray for him, but anything can happen and the sad thing is we all have to live with that fact.

DreamlOver

Ness · ~*Service Worker*~

Jerry, Betty and Dreams.....thanks for being here.....Im taking my obsessing to my f2f today.....like you Dreams this freezing cold weather has had me worrying for weeks that my Ason will be found as this poor man was and yesterday hearing this news wobbled me a fair bit. Time to take it to the room for a bit of serenity

Betty....Im hanging on to hope.....always will as long as I live and breath. Thank you for sharing your experience, it means a lot to me.

Jerry....keeping it in my head & heart.....workin it odat....

(((((Hugs))))) Ness x

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