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Hoot Nanny


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I am feeling better about going to the gratitude banquet tonight although it is going to be a long day & I am tired.  Yesterday I posted about my A taking his fellow A to the train station. I feel differently today about it. I just realized that he was doing someone a huge favor & that I needed to let the situation be as it is.  Sometimes I get really selfish & think that everyone should do things my way.  I am feeling kinda guilty of that right now.  I have been so selfish in my life. I have only recently realized just how much I interrupt people & don't listen sometimes very well.  I have spent a lifetime trying to figure myself out;  I know I never will.
I have noticed that I am doing better but sometimes I really slip. I don't think that I have really relapsed too much.  I have tried to make amends to people over the years to try to make up for my mistakes.
Yesterday, I got upset with my husband when he got home from his AA meeting. It had to do with the book I was reading--he is not used to me reading I guess cause he interrupted my reading--I was just finished the chapter & I am very close to the end. So, anyway I told him that he never reads so he doesn't get it!  On & on I went.  He said he reads The Big Book at meetings I guess & he follows along at church.  I meant that he doesn't read on his own at all. I never told him I was sorry & that I was wrong to snap at him like that.
I have to make amends to him for being so "bitchy" last night.  I won't sleep too well until I do!
Kathleen

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Debilyn


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I learned that I had to make the mistake again, after I learned what not to do, to know I goofed. So then I was better next time! We have to learn to catch ourselves at first. It  shows progress that you realized what ya did!

After awhile it will come natural, like driving. It really does.

When I feel like I am "off" I have learned to tell myself I am just tired.

So he is going to meetings and to church? That is great!

you are doing fine girl. Debilyn

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Rocky38


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Hi Kathleen,

I'm glad you're feeling better and I'm impressed by your awareness of your part in the relationship. We all mess up. The trick is to know when we did, make amends and then change our behavior going forward. I've heard and read from a lot that we should HALT ourselves from being in arguments. I want add another letter to hungry, angry, lonely and tired. I'll add hormonal! The week before my period us definitely a time where I can go over the top. I sometimes warn my household. The boys head into their "man caves" and we're all usually ok. Thank goodness for their understanding.

Hugs to you, Rocky

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