new to helping me.. - Al-Anon Family Group

serching-sandy · Member

new to helping me..

Rocky38 · Senior Member

Sandy,

I'm really glad you're posting here. Please keep coming back.

There are many who can reply with happy stories. While some can reply that their loved one got sober, the really happy posters, with a capital HAPPY, will say that what was important was their own recovery from the impact of the disease.

One thing I wanted to share from my experience is how isolating the disease is. The shame and embarrasment can cause us to isolate ourselves and our children, which makes it harder to grow. I hope you continue your growth and challenge the things you used to do as a child to cope.

Meetings and this board have been a lifesaver for me and you will find many friends here.

Hugs, Rocky

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Sandra

Welcome to MIP. I am glad you are reaching out to Help Yourself.
Alanon has the tools that can replace the destructive tools we pickuped up as children living in alcoholic homes. You have a great awareness of what is going on and how you have somehow lost yourself in the efforts to build your life.

Meetings, Living One Day at A Time, Belief in a Higher Power,
Focusing on myself and knowing that I was powerless over others and that: alcoholisn is a disease that I did not cause, cannot control and cannot cure helped me to begin my recovery.

Help with finding local meetings near where you live may be found at the following web site: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/meetings/meeting.html Or call: 1-888-4alanon

Online meetings are held in the Al-Anon chat room associated with this site.

From the board click on Al-Anon Group Meeting/Chat Room in the yellow box in upper left of the page. After clicking on the link please be patient, sometimes it takes a while for the window to open.

Please keep coming back. You are not alone

serching-sandy · Member

To deal with not dealing, I write.. I can hide in my notebook for hours, it may not solve anything but it helps me live... around 2am I wrote this.. thought some of you might relate. And I am working on dealing with it, I'll keep tring.

Tring to sort out My box of things
you know the stuff that life does bring.
the emotion and pain that we store away,
the hurt and agony that wants to play.
You tell yourself it must be you,
for thats the easiest thing to do.
hide behind a fake smile,
just to find a corner and cry awhile.
pull your emotions in real tight,
it's the only way to avoid this fight.
don't let it out, it must not excape,
shove it down with this piece of cake..
Do what you can, try as you might,
it will always be just out of sight.
you will run into it everyday,
no matter how much you hope and pray..
until you deside for yourself
to clean up your emotions on that shelf.
You will never be you, you'll never be true,
So this is exactly what i'm tring to do.
It won't be easy it won't be fun,
It's just something that has to be done!

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Hi Sandra

What a beautiful insiteful poem!!!You are in the right place!!!

Instead of that piece of cake, alanon offers the 12 Steps!!! THese Steps lead us on a road filled wiht serenity, courage and wisdom. Sometimes the road is difficult but that was when I truly found my HP and the support of my alanon sponser and friends.

The best part about finding alanon is that I discovered that I was not alone and that there was hope!!!.

Please keep sharing and coming back

DreamXL · Senior Member

Sandra, So glad you are here....:) I think it is typical to lose ourselves....keep coming back alanon will help you find you again...:)

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