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My fiance has been to Hazelden, and has relapsed. He is now going to go to Passages in Malibu in two days. Does anyone know anything about this treatment center? I want him to get help, but my research has led me to believe that Passages is not a good treatment center. Does anyone know anything about it?
What are you going to do with his choice? He's searching and you don't have much experience...maybe letting go and letting God would work out best for you.
Your bio doesn't say if you have tried the Al-Anon Family Groups for family, friends, and associates who are affected by someone elses drinking. It really works. It is what saved my life. While he is out searching for something that might work for him give Al-Anon a 90 day trial. Get to as many meetings as you can over the next 90 days; get as much literature as you can there and read it all; learn the steps and traditions and the slogans, one of which is "Let go and Let God"; find out about Higher Power and see if you have one to help you and inquire about what a sponsor is.
When I was determining what would work for my alcoholic wife she continued to drink and drug and all the other stuff that comes with it. When I let go entirely she found sobriety in her own way, in her own time at her own place in a way I now use as a metaphor for humility (she never has known this). Give your own program a shot. (((((hugs)))))
No matter where he goes for treatment, is his desire to get better and the way he works his program that matters. Work your program and get better. That will help you a lot, which is the most important, and it will help him too.
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Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable.
I'm with the others... I'm sure Passages is wonderful, if he's ready to get sober.... if he's not, the most expensive rehab in the world likely won't do any good... Time to allow him to own his recovery, and you to dive into your own......
"He will either drink (or go to Passages & get sober, or go to Passages and not get sober), or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
Take care of you
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
