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gknee


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New chapter......today I am picking up my AH from inpt treatment that he has been in since Monday nite. I was just so happy to get him out of the house, I didn't really think about the other side of it. I am not looking forward to bringing him home-- because then I have to deal with him. Out of sight, out of mind-- you know?

I am glad that he wanted to try something new. i hope he can get help and get his head on straight so he can be healthy and happy. (the same things I want for myself) I just don't know if I want a relationship with him as a husband any longer. I am just so tired of it all. Beat down by his disease (and my co-dependency) It doesn't mean I haven't been working my program though--- its just that maybe enough is enough.

Wish I could be more supportive or optimistic for him-- but I'll leave that up to him and his HP. What good has my support or optimism done in the past?

so much for the power of positive thinking.....confuse.gif



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Christy


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gnee,

Sometimes staying together isn't the best thing to do.  Redirecting your positive thoughts and support on you will work much better then applying them to his recovery.
Hang in there !  Do what you need to do for you.

Christy

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Gnee

Thanks for sharing wher you are at.  You are correct- sometimes enough is enough.

Keep focusing on you  I will pray for your peace 



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One day (or moment) at a time - 
please be gentle with you during this as well gknee

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Mandy123


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gknee.
I reached my limit not long ago. It was hard to sa enough was enough, but it was my time.

Keep focusing on you and workign your program, be patient with yourself....your answer will come when you are ready.

Yours in recovery,
Mandy

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maresie


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Actually I think this is a good space to be coming from reality.  I know I took a long long long time to get there.

Maresie.

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