One new thing for me in making any kind of friendship is looking at that persons boundaries.  If they have an issue with them that is a red flag for me.   I no longer charge into any relationship because I "like" someone.  I evaulate, feed back, look at levels, work on how I can change my boundaries.  For me now it is a constant evaulation.  I don't run for the hills if I meet someone dysfunctional I just reset the boundaries.  Self preservation is here at last!  Before I saw this as a reason to be sad now I see it as a great great thing!  Progress not perfection.

Maresie.