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Thanks again to everyone for your prayers.., I have posted an update in the chain below...
Knowing you are all here telling me I am not crazy is a BIG HELP. AH has rounded up the troops in his support and has the neighbours, his family etc, thinking I am some crazed dusgruntled wife getting ready to leave him and keep him from his kids with exagerated accusations... I don't really care what they all think, and I am prepared to be the bad guy.. Just frustrating at the number of people willing to help him have a soft landing so that his bottom doesn't ever come. I wrote my MIL a letter to explain and gave her my copy of "Getting them Sober" so she can try and see that she is not helping him and that I am not the enemy. Recommended Al Anon for her as well.
Oh well, focus on me and my kids, and my HP will take care of the rest...
Good people won't want to listen to the drama. Others will wonder, "well then what makes you stay there?" No one likes to hear a spouse tear another up. Makes the gossiper look bad not you!
So do you care what those think that want to listen to this bolony. I sure don't.
I am here to please my creator first then me. Everyone can decided for themselves how they feel about me.
Good for you for staying safe and sticking to your boundaries. Something I heard here that really helps me is "what other people think of me is none of my business". Let other people say/think what they want. They are not in your shoes, there's no way they can possibly understand what you are dealing with. Let it go - do what you know is right for you and your kids.
