The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have not posted here in a very long time. I am doing pretty well these days, one day at a time.
I am in a good relationship with a good man. We really enjoy each other's company and its very simple and nice. We are both al-anoners but we have separate programs. Its working out really well- we understand each other in ways I have never experienced before. We have a lot of respect for each other and its good.
I am moving and that is a good thing, too. I have had room mates and now I can get a place of my own and it feels incredibly good. I have lived in rented rooms/with room mates for 5 years now so its time!! I am finally able to live alone- YAY!
Work is OK- its not the greatest thing in the world but its OK. I won't be there forever but its fine for now. Its paying my bills and financing my new life.
I have had some health issues but again, one day at a time.
I feel like I am heading into a new phase of my life, one of re-building. I have been in transition for so long and now I feel like I am heading into a more stable and grounded life. I feel peace most of the time and when I don't, I pass it off to HP- he can deal with that; I don't have to.
I just have to say that its really nice to actually be with a boyfriend who really likes me and wants to be with me (shocking). For so long I spent time with unhappy people who were uncertain about themselves and therefore were uncertain about their friendships and relationships. I used to work hard to manipulate people into liking me. Now, if they don't like me, that is totally Ok because there are plenty out there who do and I prefer now to hang out with them! I no longer try to convince anyone of anything. If someone does not want to be with me, its loud and clear and I believe it and take it at face value and let them go. Real simple. Real basic.
I am so grateful for the rooms of al-anon. I love you guys. Jean
I was just wondering how you were. I am so glad you are able to move. I am working on a number of projects at the moment and moving into my own place is years away. I am so happy to see someone do this.
I am also happy you are in a relationship that seems to be working. My prior models were to move in as soon as possible, be serious day one and not be able to conceive of having a "choice". I know that dating is something I am really a beginner at.
