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Ive been contemplating leaving my marriage of 22 years for some time now. I finally decided that I am leaving. My son leaves for college in the fall and I plan to leave sometime after that. I have only told three people about this. So when my sister in law called friday night and said that my brother told her not to sell the love seat in their garage sale because I was gonna need it, it sent shivers down my spine. I never told him or any other family member. He's always the one brother (I have three) who speaks and thinks with his heart, so it seemed perfect.
I am more and more at peace about this decision every day. I can almost feel my blood pressure going down! I've been so stressed out for so long that it ws effecting my health in many ways.
So now I'm planning a grauation party for my son at our home. I'm trying not to spend much money on sprusing up the place but want it to be the best for my son. It feels like the last harrah in a way. Family on both sides will be here celebrating the most important person in my life.
So everyday I ask my HP to show me his path for me. If only I could stop rushing him! And every once in a while he shows me that he's really there like when my brother being there for me.
Thanks to Ala-non for bringing my HP back into my life.
Thanks to all of you sharing with me so I know I'm not alone.
Good for you... :) May God Bless you completely as you begin a new direction in your life. I remember how I did the same. I planned a party for my daughters 8th birthday party and KNEW I would be leaving and that would be the LAST with her father and me together (even though nobody else knew it) :)) But as you, after several long years, I knew what I had to do or I was going to suffer the consequences of my health failing and eventually even felt as if I'd die. We had a clown at the party and it was the most memorable event I recall. Both sides of the family were there. It was only 5 months later that the separation happened and then the divorce a few months later.
It takes alot of courage, strength to change your circumstances and although through the past 9 years, I've had to do much on my own and have been faced with some overwhelming circumstances because there are still lessons I need to learn, one of the BEST things I did was leave my childrens father.
Take Care and my prayers are with you for a new beginning. Always remember to Trust God completely, even when you don't understand.... :))) Something, I have learned the hard way. :)
