The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I had an amazing relationship with an amazing guy and one day it was just gone. It still hurts but less and less every day thank god. One thing I can say is that this has really brought out areas in me that I need to work on and be diligent about watching and not sliding into old routines. Every character flaw I have has come out over the past few weeks in blazing glory and I see it and feel it and am not in denial of it anymore. God grant me the strength to change these things!!! Seeing them is one thing, not doing them again despite overwhelming urges is entirely another!!!
Hi, I can relate to your share so much. I am slowly focusing on myself. As my defects become more and more obvious I keep catching myself. I just pray to my Hp to remove them ecause it would be such a overwhelming task alone. I did the best I could in the past with the tools I had. I am trying not to judge or punish myself with guilt. Good on you for focusing on yourself Take what you like and leave the rest, hugs
All I would suggest is get tools tools tools. There are plenty of them out there. The old tool box you used with the alcoholic doesn't work anymore, get new tools,
Thank you so much for sharing. Awarness is powerful. I can so relate to the character defects rearing their ugly heads and the FIGHT it takes not to slide back into old patterns of behavior and thinking.
I read something last night that really struck a chord with me. Obsessing and my mind on the perpetual hamster wheel is really a way of getting out of myself and going around the feelings. I didn't have to feel the emptiness or sadness if I was so "other people" focused. I'm almost getting this for the first time, that just being with my feelings and facing my fears of FEELING is ok. Thanks for sharing here!!
