The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Right now my life has ramped up with appointments, commitments and goals. I have to remind myself to take one day at a t ime and pace myself. My downfall has always been doing too much, resenting it and then getting sick.
I really try hard to catch the everyday resentments as they come up and discard them but I know if I don't take care of myself I'll flip flop around.
This sounds like a job for....Sponsor!!! I could always depend that I wouldn't get to the point that I would off myself either voluntarily or involuntarily if I reached my sponsor first. In fact my incidences of getting sick went way down.
You know one of the issues is that my life is far less complicated now away from the ex A but the consequences of living with him will be with me for a long long time. I know that was incredibly hard for me to deal with over a long term.
Thanks so much for sharing this - it has reached me a the most pertinent period of my life. I have such a difficult time seeing tasks through until the finish. I start SO MANY things and then freeze up and become so overwhelmed with how many projects I have on the table.
I also tend to agree to way too many commitments and become drained and resentful and project it outwards when in reality it is simply me needing to acknowledge and learn my limits. THere is almost this part of me that is resentful that I must have the responsibilities as an adult. But my old sponsor used to always tell me that it was time to 'Put on my big girl panties' and take responsiblity for myself. I forget this alot but, am trying to warm back up to the idea, if I don't sit on the pity pot for too long.
