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I can't believe this is actually happening, but my husband is checking into detox at 9am tomorrow morning! I had given up hope for him, and honestly I still don't have long-term hope for him, but since I had given up my expectations, this is actually a pleasant surprise. I want the best for him regardless of whether I decide to stay with him long term or not, so this feels good.
On the other hand, I won't be able to TALK to him AT ALL for 5 days! That I have never done before! Even when we separated for the better part of a week, I still talked to him almost every day. So even though I have been detaching a lot lately and coming to terms with the fact that this marriage is not likely to work out long term, I still am going to have a hard time not talking to him AT ALL for 5 days, especially when I know he'll be going through a hard time.
I am thankful for MIP and the fact that I know you will all be here when I start freaking out in a few days!
5 days -- Perfect . Now is the time to take a look at you,I hope u are going to Al-Anon meetings for yourself your going to need support . Obsession is the hardest part of this program , letting go of another persons life and allowing them the dignity to grow up with out our help . The alcoholic is not the only one who has to change we do too , I was told that an alcoholic cannot go home to an old idea and stay sober I was the old idea ,cant say I was too pleased to hear that one but had been here long enough to understand . Learning to live my life and staying out of thier recovery is a challenge and with out the support of my groups and friends I know I would have stuck my nose in his business . We have alot of great books that help in sobriety Living with Sobriety = Dilema of the alcoholic marriage are great , talks alot about communication , seems we have a problem with that hehe . Enjoy your 5 days . Louise
Aloha Sterling...5 days!! Look up the local number for Al-Anon and the places and times you can come meet some of us face to face. The program has many miracles waiting just for you and real (((((hugs)))))
Take these 5 days and enjoy the serenity. Stay focused on you and stay busy. Meetings help. (I learned that lesson late.) Hopefully after detox he will enter rehab. Or perhaps they will offer him some outpatient program so that he can stay sober. Whatever he chooses, remember the BEST thing you can do for his recovery is to work on yours. Turn his recovery over to his HP and concentrate on yours. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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but had been here long enough to understand . Learning to live my life and staying out of thier recovery is a challenge and with out the support of my groups and friends I know I would have stuck my nose in his business . We have alot of great books that help in sobriety Living with Sobriety = Dilema of the alcoholic marriage are great , talks alot about communication , seems we have a problem with that hehe . Enjoy your 5 days . Louise
