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Post Info TOPIC: Live and let live v let it begin with me


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Live and let live v let it begin with me


Hello people I felt a strong urge to come on the board and share with you guys tonight on something that I did let get to me today though have quickly been able to turn the negative thoughts around.

I was chatting a forum today which i'm a regular to on a topic discussing physical appearance of a star negatively.  I quickly moved into the defense mode being aware of how critical folks were being onto looking at the positive attributes.  This then in the end received and arrrrrrrrrrrgh comment from a poster I dinna get on shinging brightly with.  I then asked what this meant and was told I dinna like fluffy tones in your posts.  I looked at my posts and did notice I may come accross pretty self-righteous so spoke about how I understand this may not be everyone's cuppa tea.  I didn't feel I should apologise for being me as everyone has that right to express. I do believe it begins with me and I did take the comment hurtfully because of who it was made by and not what was said. 

Basically what av learned from this is that I dealt with my side of it and also I used live and let live when another reply came back with thanks I appreciate it which to meant "I am right thanks for saying you will change who you are to fit".  Of course this could be my head manifestinglol

I'm glad I didn't reply to that with a reaction and left it be cause from what I see I dealt with my side and I have accepted that no everyone on the planet is gonna like who I am all of the time.  Hey it does feel good to let go of the old habit of feeling I owe someone and full explanationsmile

Adding to this I have slowly become to realise that I am no longer enjoying the forum I speak about.  Says something for my recovery cause I feel I don't fit any more and that's okay.  I have the choice to stop mixing in negative company.

Thanks for reading

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Chezza

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Right On Chezza!!   Grow, grow, grow.  (((((hugs))))) smile

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I can relate..I was recently told I had a "pollyanna attitude".  It was meant as a slam but I chose to take as a positive.
Hey!  Sorry if it upsets someone that I counter their negatives with a positive.

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Christy wrote:

I can relate..I was recently told I had a "pollyanna attitude".  It was meant as a slam but I chose to take as a positive.
Hey!  Sorry if it upsets someone that I counter their negatives with a positive.



Hahahaha I suppose it is really quiet funny in a way as it does show I have a power that a lot of people dinna have.  Hey interestingly today I entered the said forum and the person seems to have a changed attitude over night.  This makes me giggle.

 



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Jerry F wrote:




Right On Chezza!!   Grow, grow, grow.  (((((hugs))))) smile



Thanks jerry for  the encouragement.smile


 



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