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Hello people I felt a strong urge to come on the board and share with you guys tonight on something that I did let get to me today though have quickly been able to turn the negative thoughts around.
I was chatting a forum today which i'm a regular to on a topic discussing physical appearance of a star negatively. I quickly moved into the defense mode being aware of how critical folks were being onto looking at the positive attributes. This then in the end received and arrrrrrrrrrrgh comment from a poster I dinna get on shinging brightly with. I then asked what this meant and was told I dinna like fluffy tones in your posts. I looked at my posts and did notice I may come accross pretty self-righteous so spoke about how I understand this may not be everyone's cuppa tea. I didn't feel I should apologise for being me as everyone has that right to express. I do believe it begins with me and I did take the comment hurtfully because of who it was made by and not what was said.
Basically what av learned from this is that I dealt with my side of it and also I used live and let live when another reply came back with thanks I appreciate it which to meant "I am right thanks for saying you will change who you are to fit". Of course this could be my head manifestinglol
I'm glad I didn't reply to that with a reaction and left it be cause from what I see I dealt with my side and I have accepted that no everyone on the planet is gonna like who I am all of the time. Hey it does feel good to let go of the old habit of feeling I owe someone and full explanation
Adding to this I have slowly become to realise that I am no longer enjoying the forum I speak about. Says something for my recovery cause I feel I don't fit any more and that's okay. I have the choice to stop mixing in negative company.
Thanks for reading
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Chezza
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I can relate..I was recently told I had a "pollyanna attitude". It was meant as a slam but I chose to take as a positive. Hey! Sorry if it upsets someone that I counter their negatives with a positive.
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I can relate..I was recently told I had a "pollyanna attitude". It was meant as a slam but I chose to take as a positive. Hey! Sorry if it upsets someone that I counter their negatives with a positive.
Hahahaha I suppose it is really quiet funny in a way as it does show I have a power that a lot of people dinna have. Hey interestingly today I entered the said forum and the person seems to have a changed attitude over night. This makes me giggle.
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