The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Your in the right place and starting off on solid ground. You know that you need to focus on yourself and not the alcoholic, you've got a f2f sponsor and are evidently going to f2f meetings, been to on-line meetings and have come here to post...kudos to you! I wish I had had that much insight when I first started to al-anon. It took me several years to get to where you sound like you are already. Keep coming to these rooms, working the steps, working with your sponsor and you'll find the answers you seek.
Yours in Recovery,
Overcome
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I can Overcome all things through my HP who strengthens me.
I will speak from working with my own sponsor that the more I talk with her and open up to her about what's going on in my life, the better she's able to guide me. These forums are a decent side-route... they're program, but they don't quite function the same as f2f meetings, and definitely not the same as sitting and having a heart-to-heart with my sponsor.
Do you get to f2f meetings? (I ask because I saw you mentioned online as your meeting attendance). If you haven't been to any f2f meetings, I'd highly encourage it. :) It's great to see people in person, and there's nothing that compares to receiving real hugs!
Welcome Stella - I was your age exactly when I got into this program along time ago by the way A trick that worked for me in sobriety was when reading literature I substituded my husb name for the word alcoholic , alot of people get confused in sobriety assuming what worked when drinking won't work sober . but it does and remember once an A always an A I still react to my husb's outbursts occasionally we simply do not think alike and our solutions to problems are not the same at all . As to his still blaming you for his problems , if u didn't do it dont deal with it , walk away . If u did it admit it apologize and move on , I don't know anyone who has done this perfectly yet were human occasionally we react . my fav page to help me deal with alcoholism is July 14th in our ODAT daily reader , do what it says to the best of your ability and your life will get better that page and the detachment pamphlet changed my life and it will yours too . I hope to meet u in the meeting sometime soon . Louise
This sure is a good place to be. You will find friends here and at f2f meetings that are so unbelievably understanding because they too have found that living with an alcoholic is too much for them. We become irritable and unreasonable without knowing it. That's me! I couldn't understand why I had so much trouble getting along with people. I always had a problem with someone somewhere! This program keeps me sane. I can believe how I want to believe, no one preaches to you what to do and God really does work through the program. Blessyou, Silverbrumby (older than 42- sigh!)
A trick that worked for me in sobriety was when reading literature I substituded my husb name for the word alcoholic , alot of people get confused in sobriety assuming what worked when drinking won't work sober . but it does and remember once an A always an A I still react to my husb's outbursts occasionally we simply do not think alike and our solutions to problems are not the same at all . As to his still blaming you for his problems , if u didn't do it dont deal with it , walk away . If u did it admit it apologize and move on , I don't know anyone who has done this perfectly yet were human occasionally we react . my fav page to help me deal with alcoholism is July 14th in our ODAT daily reader , do what it says to the best of your ability and your life will get better that page and the detachment pamphlet changed my life and it will yours too . I hope to meet u in the meeting sometime soon . Louise
and unreasonable without knowing it.
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