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Happy Fathers Day to all the fathers of MIP, and all the mothers who serve both roles. I can relate to serving both roles, as I was a Mr. Mom from the time my daughter was 12 and and son 8. I used to kid and say I ran my business all day, came home took off my pants, put on my panties and was Mr. Mom. But, I would not take a million dollars for that experience and that time in my life. It kept me grounded. My children are both grown now, and as all fathers I am extremely proud of them.
As Fathers Day nears I am reminded that I once you are a father you are always a father. It's a job that last a lifetime. No one can take that away from you. Also, never forget there is a great responsibility that comes with with title of father. It requires sitting the right examples to follow, loving, caring, always being there for them through thick and thin, and realizing that when you finally have to put them on the playing field of life, they have to make their own mistakes, just as I did.
But, the most important thing I would like to say is this. My Father, who I miss dearly, was a wonderful father. I live my life every day by examples he instilled in me, and if I have been only half the father to my children that he was to me, then I feel I have been a successful father, because I certainly had a great teacher who lead by example. He is gone now, but never forgotten, and I will always have the thousands of memories he left for me, and not a single one of them is bad.
His favorite Bible verse, and also mine is Proverbs (22-6), "Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it"
I love and miss my dad, too. He was an awesome father (my mom is the A). He stuck with my mom for me and my sis. He believed in both of us. I am so grateful he was my dad. I miss him very much. I wish he were still here but I still talk to him all the time. I think partially its because of him that I have such a close relationship w/HP- they are one in the same to me now. To my dad, nothing was impossible for us kids. He was also a big believer in education. He encouraged me to go for stuff. Thanks HJ! hugs, J.
Thanks for this post RLC. Great thread for Father's Day!
I lost my dad on February 2, 2002. It has been a long grieving process ever since. Dad was the rock of my life. He was my example. He was not perfect, but he was like God to me (kinda like Jean said). He was very stern, but very compassionate at the same time.
I remember one time when I was a teenager and had been out drinking and all he said was this, "alcohol is like a snake, it will turn around and bite you when you least expect it, so be careful". A man of few words was my dad.
Dad also left the house at midnight one night to go buy a humidifer for me, because I had pneumonia and had been given bed rest by the doctor and was having trouble breathing one night. He was a man of odd comparisons.
One time when I was 10 I said "gosh" at the dinner table. He reached across and backhanded me and said, "Do not take the Lord's name in vain". I said it's not a bad word dad, it's what all the kids say. He said, "Look it up in the dictionary and see what it means". I looked it up in Webster's bound to prove him wrong and low and behold he was right. It is a slang term for God, meaning I did take the Lord's name in vain. He took his faith very seriously.
I learned my faith from my dad and my appreciation for the beautiful things in life. His favorite hymn was an old Methodist hymn called Look for the Beautiful and he truly tried to look for the beautiful and true things in life. I am missing my dad this Father's Day as always. I think I will go put some flowers on his grave for Father's day and let him know I 'm thinking of him.
Overcome
-- Edited by Overcome on Saturday 20th of June 2009 06:46:10 PM
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I can Overcome all things through my HP who strengthens me.
I too miss my father terribly. He passed away in July 97 very suddenly when I was 17. I always feel eternally grateful that I was brought up in a non A family. It makes todays situation that bit harder to deal with with my Abf knowing how good life used to be. ....
