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Over the past year I've really been working on my health issues. The ex A took up all my time at the end of the relationship with him. Every day there was some new crisis. My health went out the window. Currently I am looking to lose weight and just saw a dietician (part of the doctor group I belong to) and really am trying to keep my focus on that and unravelling all the mess I still have to deal with from leaving the exA. When I can keep my focus on specific goals I am less likely to stray into murky waters like hooking up with another alcoholic. I've lost 10 lbs already and am looking forward to next summer when I'll be able to wear all those clothes for skinny people!
10lbs... WOW you go girl.. I have struggled with my weight like a Yo Yo for years... Then i went to the Doc, and found out I am border line diebetic... So I lost 25 in all, about 2 years ago, I have done ALOT better for I have only put 5 on, and am now working on getting that gone again...
GOod for you for putting yourself back on the "To Do List"....
Keep up the great work, and keep us posted... Love & Prayers Jozie
That is wonderful! I lost 50 lbs one time when I was seperated from my A. It was awsome. We got back together, I got back into old habits and gained it all back. SUCKS!!
Maresie, I'm proud of you for losing 10Ibs but do this because you want to, not because your not perfect the way you are, if you know what I mean, I'm going the middleweight clothes instead of the heavy weight or the lightweight, as I feel frightened by people losing too much weight, the same way as what I feel if they gain too much weight, you need to take care of you and I don't want you to disappear no pun intended, take it easy no more than a pound a week, exercise, not just diet, thinking of you, and pm if you need to,
Maresie, I can relate to not taking care of yourself when dealing with an active A. It's a great reminder for me to realize I've tried and failed many times to deal with my weight. I've had weight problems for over 15 years and despite my good intentions, there have only been 4 occassions where I've achieved my goal and kept it off for 6 months or more. Yet, I used to expect my AH to get rid of his alcoholism by sheer willpower and because he loved his family. Now I understand that it isn't that simple. It's achievable but hard to maintain and takes a lot of vigilence to continuosly work our program. I have also learned that although my nubby supports my weight loss and agrees I need to lose it, he can't lose it for me, nor manage/control me into losing it.
Interesting wake up call for my attitudes about alcoholism versus weight loss or foodism.
Mariesie, I just went to see a doctor for a check up for the first time in my adult life. Just a plain old check up- nothing wrong with me, a preventative step. This is shocking to me- I am taking care of myself! No one else can do it for us only we can do it for ourselves. good for you! hugs, J.
I love it Maresie! That is an inspirational accomplishment in self-care.
I am finding that eating has become somewhat of a compulsion of my mind lately. I believe it is my anxiety due to the stress of the foreclosure and also my job. Last night, steps 6 and 7 really helped me...
I have a bad habit of buying sushi before I drive home from work, which is 9:00 at night. Sometimes, I even start eating it in the car, I just can't wait. Last night, I did buy it (habit) However, as I was walking out to my car, I began to tell God that I KNEW I wasn't even hungry! And that I was entirely ready to have Him remove this from me. I continued to pray in my car, asking for help to just leave it sit on the passenger seat. It didn't take long for me to feel very calm and I began to notice the beauty of the night sky.
I am happy to say, that the sushi is still sitting in my fridge this morning!!! LOL
I got some great ESH at a meeting this week, that we have to LIVE the steps. This has been a real focus for me this week. Also, that the steps teach me, this is not a self-help program, I need HP's help, my willpower alone, is never enough.
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My weight loss issues have been for health reasons. I have borderline high blood pressure. I also had some other ailments that were directly related to being over weight. I certainly have a lot more pounds to lose and have no doubt it will take me a while. I do find exercising helps me to focus on myself and also be too tired to obsess!
