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I used to torture myself over choices. I would find myself totally fixated on what I could not do and not be able to do what I needed to do. Al anon has really helped me with that. Making a plan be was a start. I didn't like any of it but I saw the choice I had clearly ahead.
Rignt now I can't say I really like my life. Times are hard. I am not where I want to be. Nevertheless I have choices that I did not have before. Weight loss and being healthy is one of them. When I exercise there is no question my breathing is better, I'm not cured but it is better. I know if I look better I'll be more confident in the world. I also know that weight loss does not happen overnight just as much as I can't move tomorrow.
Making choices is really simple for me. What can I do how can I do it. How can I make the most of today. I can make it a catastrophe or I can make it a choice.
You're exactly right maresie. To discover I had choices was one of the hugest "aha moments" for me. One day it dawned on me that I don't have to just accept (and react) to what life threw at me. There were an infinite number of choices and responses. All I had to do was choose one I liked. It not only included what I did but what I said. It's kind of mind boggling to think our choices can change everything. They can snowball us and others in to a crisis or create peace.
Christy
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Yes, the weight loss thing is difficult, I am going to unislim at the moment and at least conscious of weight as my knee will certainly give out if I pile it on at present, you are thinking healthy and don't be too hard on yourself
Weight loss is hard to maintain. I have been feeling a whole lot better since I lost a bunch of weight too! I hope you keep up the good work. Don't let yourself forget why you are losing--for yourself and your health. Kathleen
