My mom is very "unique" to me. I don't know if anyone has a similar experience with their moms but I have so much experience with the downside of my relationship with my mom.  Unfortunately, sometimes I think she has been less-than what I wanted her to be.  I guess in some ways she let me down.  I have to let go of the past though and move on.
My mom has bipolar disorder and sometimes doesn't take all her meds.  OK so maybe I am not supposed to talk about it on this site but I feel it necessary.  She also claims to be a recovering alcoholic which I doubt really if she ever drank much. Whatever the case, her decisions are between her and her HP.
Today my mom is sometimes intrusive in my life with my husband and me.
Don't get me wrong, I love her.
I need boundaries still and she is doing better with honoring my boundaries.  Sometimes I get so upset with her that I have even called her names in the past.  One time I called her a name & now feel guilty about it.  But...I am not going to let all this ruin my program.  I am working hard to let go!
I have plans to honor her this Mother's Day!
There are good things I see in her.  She has helped tremendously in the past and has been a rock when I needed her.
To all MOMS out there have a great day on Sunday--every mom deserves it!
Kathleen