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carolinagirl


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I'm not relying on my ex at all regarding paying for my new house.  The rent there is $50 a month more than what I'm paying now and includes phone, cable and dsl.  I will pick up a water bill and pay power.  The current place includes water and cable but I pay phone and dsl along with the power and this new place is bigger.  It is a good deal for what I get it's just more than I've ever had to pay before.  But so was the place before that and the place before that and somehow I manage to make it work.  Plus I already put down the deposit AND I had tried to rent through another company and they refused to rent to me because of my horrible credit and I knew that would happen with every other company.  All the places I have seen through private owners in the same price range were shameful in comparison... old, run down, bad neighborhoods, etc... and this place is brand new never lived in pristine condition.  I'll attach some pics if I can find them. 

Working the second job doesn't kill me... it'd be nice if I didn't have to... but I like the money and the summer expenses are always much much higher than the rest of the year here (daycare full days and power bills and food for people eating at home more, etc).  I'm just happy the ex ah is paying something but definitely not relying on it.  I am actually more hopeful that my boyfriend will move in at some point and share the costs but that is not necessary either, one thing I have learned here is I CAN make it on my own! 

I have a lot of stress right now and to top it off I quit smoking again yesterday so I have been slightly edgier than normal.  I'm using the chantix pill and it's the first time I have tried that and it works amazingly well. 

As for the fires, they are about 15 minutes from my house and we got some smoke and ash at our house.  I feel really bad for the people who lost their homes and the fire is still not 100% contained so a strong wind could kick it up again.  It is definitely a little TOO close to home for me!  I drive through that area all the time and one of the highways is shut down still which made my trip to take the kids to see ex ah about 1/3 longer each way times two because I dropped them off came home and then picked them up and came home.  Usually it would take me 40 minutes one way, last week it was over an hour because of the tourist traffic and lights along the way.  It has been 85 and sunny here for the past 4 or 5 days as well which is not helping the fire situation.  We had plenty of rain a week and a half ago when we didn't need it.


Here's listing info about it...

Additional Information

Bedrooms: 3Full Baths: 3Half Baths: 1
Est. Sq Ft.: 1751-1800 sq feetParking Capacity: 2 Car UnitStyle: Yes
 

Room Dimensions

Living Room: 16x11Family Room:
Dining Room: 14.6x11Kitchen: 9.6x11
Master Bedroom: Bedroom 1: 11.5x14
Bedroom 2: 12x11Bedroom 3:
 

Community Features

Exterior Features:
Lot Description:RectangularUtilities:Electricity Water Public Sewer Cable TV Underground Utilities TelephoneHeating/Cooling:Central Heat Central Air Electric 

Home Interior Features

Dining Room:Lvr/DR Combo
Family Room:Interior Features:
Kitchen:
Refrigerator Microwave OvenMaster Bedroom:1st Flr Level Walk-in ClosetOther Rooms:1st Floor Bedroom(s) 1st Floor Bath(s) Laundry/Utility Screened Porch 
and I'm attaching pics of an identical unit (mine's unfurnished of course...)

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farm (32.6 kb)
farm br (29.2 kb)
farm dr (33.5 kb)
farm kitchen (23.4 kb)
farm loft (15.3 kb)
farm lr (21.0 kb)
back door view (35.1 kb)
view from loft (25.4 kb)
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BEAUTIFUL!!!!!! Go for it!!!! Who knows what tomorrow will bring. For 50 more a month it is worth the serenity of living in a place you will feel comfortable and proud of. And if next week you have to live in a box, at least you will always have the memories!! Go, be happy in all aspects of your life. You deserve it!!!!!

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(((CG))),

It looks lovely.  Lots of space which Pipers would love. If you can do it - GO FOR IT.  I hope it will be a home filled with lots of love, laughter and serenity.  Glad the fires didn't get you - so sad.  Love and blessings to you and your family.

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty smile



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ThisIsBlythe


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Oh wow it is BEAUTIFUL!!!  And that view!

I have been thinking of moving...and I hear the weather in the Carolina's is beauitful.  Let me know if there are other units available, e can be neighbors!  LOL!

Seriously, it is really lovely.  I say go for it too.

When you are happy and content working a second job is not so bad, since you have something substantial to show for it.  Motivation is a key factor in working really hard, with enough motivation anything is possible.

Seems like a great place to raise kids too, lots of room.

Here's wishing you happiness and contentment in your new home!  You work hard and you DESERVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Much Love to you,
Blythe

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debilyn


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Wow Carolina, that is very pretty. Love the water in back. Interesting floor plan.

I am afraid to ask how much the rent is. It would only be out of curiosity.

When I raised my kids, what I had to have as a priority was a nice home and nice dependable vehicle.

You have shared with us for a long time. Have watched you do better and better! I have faith you will love your new home.

Btw how are the kids doing? love,debilyn

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Very cool, CG. I know you will make it work. I wouldn't be surprised if your income rises to meet your needs albeit child support, a raise, new job, whatever...

So happy for you!

Blessings,
Lou

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For me that was one way I forced a relationship to move at record speed and the only way I wanted a relationship to go was at record speed.  The sooner we could move in together the better. The sooner we could be a "couple" the better.  I moved so fast and then I took forever to find out who they really were.

Maresie.



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carolinagirl


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Thanks mare... I know I am moving very fast with that and I should take a step back to examine my motives and think about whether I'm really getting what I want if I do that. The rent is $900... Scary for me. I love the place tho and I DO have faith that it will work itself out and the money will come. I agree the house and car are the top priorities with kids good neighborhood and reliable ride!!!

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