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I have found one key to maintaining a positive attitude is to have several small projects going. If my life is unmanageable (which it often is) I can measure my progress by how far I am moving on the projects. The more control I have the better. Of course life itself means things don't necessarily go my way. I try to count my blessings each day in how far I am moving on those projects rather than how out of control my life is.
I have a perfectly manicured lawn and garden. You can eat off the floor in my house and not a single piece of dirty laundry can be found. I am aware that I "control" all those things in my life, because there are so many things I don't have any control over. I've mastered the home and garden side of life. I need to work on myself and do a things to do in my life. My list looks something like this: work on attitude, have faith, be positive, do not judge, build a relationship with christ, have patience.......and so on!
Thank you for your post Maresie.....I too need a to do list! (this time, it won't include painting any room in my house though)
Thanks for your post, and possitive outlook... Still trying to grasp mine, One Moment at a Time... Glad your projects are moving forward as well.. :) Thats Progress... Not Profection :) I too am digging deep and soon, my goals will be complete on ONE Subject... and that will give me the peace I need.. :) Just for Today :) Can't wait... ;)
Thanks for the post. Yes, small goals are good. Often, I feel so overwhelmed, I do nothing because if I can't do it all and do it perfectly, I don't want to do it at all. A set-up for failure for me. A good reminder that goals can be reached if they are reasonable.
Blessings, Lou
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Every new day begins with new possibilities. It's up to us to fill it with the things that move us toward progress and peace. ~ Ronald Reagan~
Sometimes what you want to do has to fail, so you won't ~Marguerite Bro~
I too try to set a manageable goal for each day, and I agree, I can take stock of how I'm doing by what I manage to achieve each day. I am slowly taking back control of My Own Life Thanks Maresie.
Thanks for the reminder (((((mare))))). I have a real tendency to make mental to-do lists that include huge end results like "get done with the taxes". When instead I actually write down "fill in spreadsheet to do taxes" (a much smaller goal), and then CROSS IT OFF THE LIST, and FEEL PROUD OF MYSELF (gotta work on that still!) - I'm that much closer to the big goal, with half the angst.
