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Normally I love tomorrows. Normally I love work. But tomorrow I have to go to work with my tail between my legs. You see, all last week I worked my butt off, threw a hissy fit over two employees calling in sick or leaving early and had a meltdown of my own on Friday that carried over into Saturday. Having started my menstral cycle on Thursday ( biological time clock ticking) and a hubby also dropping the "i'm gonna go to rehab---maybe---" bomb, I had a meltdown. I was just emotionally drained, I called in sick myself. And I just didn't go in at all on Saturday. I slept, cried and just did nothing. It was much needed rest. And mentally I needed it. Today I really enjoyed my day with my hubby. But I am dreading tomorrow. I have been defeated, didn't lead by example and I acted just like the people I have problems with. How do I get passed that????? I'm gonna have a successful day, and just stay in my office with little contact with the others. UGH... i can't wait until day after tomorrow.
hi there, well i hate it for you because it is a terrible feeling to feel as though your colleagues are discussing or judging you but know that we usually spend most of our time thinking about ourselves not others sure they may indulge in some gossip but you can think of it in two ways 1. your just as human as everyone else, you thought you had a superpower (perfect attendance at work) but now realize your power is dedication 2. you are more understanding and compassionate now that you shared an experience with other people the misery and chaos that kept you out of work is that same that others feel you may be more patient with others now
just like al-anon teaches us we cannot control others so it's best to accept and find something good in the experience try to find something to laugh about it could be worse!
OOh my god Tonya...you're human. Go Figure!! You lost some weight by letting go of it how unique is that. LOL just a bit of loving sarcasm. If you have been to any face to face meetings and stayed until the ending there is a part of the closing that says "...we aren't perfect..." In the early days I thought that was a cop out and then I screwed up and stuck around the program. I now have to agree "We are not perfect".
Keep coming back, "If you keep and open mind your will find help". (((((hugs)))))
Hey there are studies about people who are so good at everything, always on, never miss a beat, and ya know what? They are not as respected or liked as people just like that, that have oops times too!
Hey I invite you to go to work, head up, feeling better, and guess what? Now you understand how others can loose it sometimes too!
You will do great, bring in some yummy snack for the break room.... love,debilyn
We have all had those days, myself,quite a few, But, dont feel bad, You are only human, when you need time for you, take it, you will be mentally and physically better for it.
And if the other employees don't like it, OH well, you needed it! From what you wrote, you REALLY needed it. I understand, I know how to have a melt down lol. Quite well actually, hehe
So, as stated before, hold your head up, smile, and go about you daily duties at work.
Your human sincerley , give yourself a break , a sincere ammends will make your day go m uch nicer = first thing in the morning make your apologies and move on . Let it go . Louise
You get passed it by forgiving yourself. We all have those moments. You hold your head up high, walk in and make amends if you feel it is neccessary. You'll be fine. People have a remarkable capacity to forgive. Good luck. Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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I agree with Karilynn, forgive yourself. Today is a new day. Humans make mistakes. Humans get hungry, angry, lonely, tired (and PMS.)
I feel you need to WATCH YOUR MOTIVE for bringing in donuts. Is it to get them to like you again? Is it a codependent motive?
Sometimes I bring in muffins to work because I feel happy and want to share muffins at work. However, there have been times when I've had to set the dang muffins right back on the shelf at the store, if I determined that my motive was to change someone's opinion of me.
Just a suggestion, identify your true motive.
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The prayer isn't for Higher Power to change our lives, but rather to change us.
Hello Sincerely, Well, by the time I read your post, you are probably at work. I hope you are feeling better. Everyone, and I mean everyone throws a hissy fit at sometime in their lives.
Just walk in your office with your head held high and let them know you are ready for whatever the day throws at you!!! You will be fine. At the end of the day, you will think "Well, that was not as bad as I thought it would be"
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Clara
------------------------------------ What don't kill you, makes you stronger!!!
work is something that is very challenging for me. Team work is a real skill. I have to add a lot more skills to my repetoire to deal with it. Detaching is one way I have learned to cope and another is to really use the tool "how important is this".
Thank you everyone for so much support. I thought about bringing in fresh flowers from my garden, but passed . Got to work as usual 1/2 hour earlier than the others. And worked in solitude until lunch. I planned on taking a full hour lunch all this week to give myself 1 hour a day to myself at work. I looked forward to lunch all day. Took my hour, and still struggled through the second 1/2 of the day in solitude.
I have a better plan for tomorrow. I'm gonna bring fresh flowers, take my hour lunch and make plans for when I get off to do something nice for myself after 5. But I will have my door open instead of shutting the office out. If anyone decides to need me, I just won't give all of myself, i'll save some for me.
