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N8SMOM


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I have been going to meetings at least 3 times a week since March 28.  I have someone in mind that I would like to ask to be my sponsor and I'm just wondering when is a good time to ask?  Is it too soon?  Should I be in the program longer?

She goes to my Monday night meetings and always just has the most common sense things to say - I think she would make a great sponsor.  Of course I am a little worried that she'll say "no," but I understand that if she does, I should try not to take it personally. 

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Jean4444


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Go for it! Hugs, J.

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gngcrzy


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As soon as you find someone- there's no time in particular. In fact, I've heard "the sooner the better."

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hotrod


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Hi Mom

It is great that you have found someone you can identify with and want what she has.  Please go for it as others have said

Good Luck

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It took me a year before I got a sponsor only because it took that long to find someone who spoke to my head and my heart. If she has what you want, just do it! Yay!

Blessings,
Lou

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abbyal


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She sounds perfect to me , and remember to not take it personally if she is too busy with others to take u on at the moment .  Am glad your looking for a sponsor early that will save u alot of grief . good luck  Louise

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Melissa21


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I think the sooner the better. i just got a sponsor about a month ago and she is wonderful!! I was afraid she would say no as well. I think that is part of the ACOA characteristics.

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blender_girl


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You're ready when YOU'RE ready - there's no hard and fast timeline. If this person speaks to your mind and your heart, go for it.

When I finally reached out and asked someone to be my sponsor, her response to me was first "Of course!", then she stunned me by saying that she thought I'd probably make a better sponsor than she would! Go figure - LOL. Anyway, so far it's been great - she's validated my feelings and given me lots of food for thought, which forces me to jump out of my hamster wheel of negative thinking and concentrate on something productive instead.

Good luck!

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