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Well I got an email from the EXABF this am, saying that he had a nice time too and that he wouldn't date anyone else until we decided what we are going to do besides that he just wants to keep it "light" and won't be consumed again by what we should or should not do or the implications of it as that is what he worries about.
I sent him an email back and advised him that I understood his feelings, but that as long as we are keeping it "light" that I did not want my son involved until we decided we would want to move forward, and that though I realized that would really limit our time together it was the best I had to offer right now.
It felt REALLY great to set that boundary and I am very happy with the way I handled it too. I would love to see EXABF often but for now, it just can't be that much, and that will also help in keeping it light:)
Just thought I'd share that with you all...... thanks for listening.
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
Good job!! It sounds like to laid out a boundary for YOU...it wasn't about manipulating the situation or FORCING a solution...it was simply about what you neededand what is best for your son. Keep up the good work and keep the focus on YOU.
Yours in recovery,
SLS
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Do not be anxious about tomorrow; tomorrow will look after itself. The Bible, from Courage to Change, p.138
SLS is correct as usual. I have gained so much knowledge from SLS's posts. So you have set a good boundary for YOU. Now remember....keep it lest it mean nothing.
Best wishes,
Diva
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"Speak your truth quietly and clearly..." Desiderata
