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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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When I read Clara's post, I thought "awww honey" And after a pause, I thought I'd pose this question to my MIP AFG: How did you learn to get past the feelings of "I'm a failure in Al Anon!"? Or "I failed Al Anon school!" I still have to work on this. I still feel ashamed when I stick my foot in my moulth. I still feel frightened when it's "exposed" how human I am. I still don't do well with vulnerability. And I still hate it, OMG, I hate it, when I lose my temper. Thank God I can't fail out of Al Anon. B/c you all told me that it's ok to make mistakes--and that I'm god's perfect child, as is.
I feel that same rejoyous in knowing I can't be thrown out of here...lol...It is accually a really soft place to land on days that seem tough, and I also LOVE coming to share my life with people that get it... MIP
Thanks for your post... Proud member of the MIP Family and i plan on stay'n :)
exactly, I forgive myself for being human in the first place... see it for what it is, an opportunity for growth & take it in stride. If we failed out of life or alanon, none of us would exist. I see it as a slip that will make my recovery stronger.
I also let go of my unrealistic expectations of myself. Today I can be in Today/Now.
I apologize when I'm able & sincere, after I've prayed & hopefully learned something & realize it's a mistake & let it go as that - we are all human.
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
Aloha Tiger....For me that only happened a few times until I learned what "progress, not perfection meant" and what the elders meant when they offered that there is no graduation in this program. Then came other tools on the subject like "grace giving" to myself and others, "tolerance", "acceptance" and "humility"...not the humility like in humiliation but like in "being teachable".
The humility and openmindedness of Al-Anon goes hand in hand with the realization and acceptance that I am human...and a child of God just like you are are aware. Apologizing for wrongs I have done is healing and powerful for me and my victim (don't I know what it feels like to be victimized). For me I keep my side of the street clean and the program in practice and for my victim they some times feel loved and validated instead of being left with hurt.
Well, it's me, Clara. Thanks to all of you guys, I know that I am human(and a Mom) and those two things forgive us for "failure". Maybe I should call it crumbing.
Anyway, daughter is not coming today as she said earlier. She has a migraine(wonder why) and will spend another night at the Best Western, about 2 hours away. Also, close to her husband that kicked her out and has filed for divorce. Talk about denial.
Anyway, we have one more day or peace and quite here at the home front. I doubt she shows up tomorrow!!!
I am so happy I found this message board.
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Clara
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