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my daughter showed up. She was strung out on heroin. she addmitted she has a problem. She confessed a lot. She said she wants to get clean. It is not easy to find a treatment center who will take someone withdrawing from heroin. I was angry, frustrated, tired. the kid was asking for help, and it was not easy to find. They say the reason is that the relapse percentage for heroin is near 100. We did find a place finally, they took her because she was young, had support with her, and came because she wanted to. The relapse thing scared me, but I need some hope. there are people who get off of this, isn't there? I'm trying to stay in the day. right now she is there, and receiving help. I know where she is tonight, I am grateful for this. it's been a nightmare. My son seems depressed and scared but doesn't really want to talk about it. It really does take a lot out of everyone. A therapist told me we shouldn't visit her. She has the option to stay up to 30 days. He feels if we are there, she may want us to take her home. she is at least an hour away and would need to find a ride if we are not there. This is hard. I didn't even think not visiting was an option. I have been and still am so consumed with her addiction. I must let go, for me and my family. how do you all stop obsessing about this stuff. I still want to fix things. Get her medacaid, since she no insurance, get a note from doc. for her job she may have already lost, note for college she stopped going to, so she wont have all F's, etc. Again I was told its not my stuff to fix. I'm tired. thanks for letting me vent. I'll pray. hug my kids that are here, and go to bed.
Gimmpy, i was amazed how difficult it was to find a treatment place to take my ABF and he has great insurance. I called over 20 places and it was a nightmare. Seems if the A wants help, there ought to be an easier way. It made me feel sorry for those seeking help who had no family to help them.
Anyways, big hugs going out to you tonight. You will find peace while your daughter is there because you dont have to worry where she is. I know for me, i have slept better then i have in years and feel better.
I too am trying to decide if i should go visit my ABF tomorrow. I keep going back and forth. The bottom line is you need to do what is best for you. Maybe take a few weeks to yourself to allow her to detox and get in a better frame of mind. The first 10 days of detox can be ugly and would probably be hard for you not to want to take her home. Allow the treatment to get her detoxed and then after a week or so you can always go visit. No matter what, you dont have to decide today :)
Take a bubble bath, read your alanon books and pamper yourself.....You deserve it
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What progress, you ask, have I made? I have begun to be a friend to myself. Hecato, Greek philosopher
(((((((((gimpty))))))))) because you need them too!!
I haven't known a bunch of Heroin addicts. Two come to mind; one very much clean and alive (just saw him about 1 and a half hours ago and yesterday employed him on a short physical project I had to complete...thanks HP...all the sober people never followed up on their promises) the other passed away after a relapse just into the 3rd year I guess. Naranon is a good lead for help for addicts and they might have a hotline number in the phone book like Al-Anon. They might have an active Family Group also. She's got help if she is willing and honest and so do you.
You've been around for a while...it shows in your awareness about the disease and your powerlessness over it. You know where to come for you. Your awareness is right on..."you'd like to but it wouldn't matter or fix anything if you tried and you have tried."
Almost 100% relapse. I think my HP has a problem with me trying to practice the gift of hope while listening to useless statistics. I don't listen today because I know that it isn't true especially for my own present experience...one alive and one relapsed...that makes it 50% according to my math. Regardless hope is the consequence I get when I turn all of my problems over to the care of God as I understand God to be. I get hope and the freedom to be responsible for my own life and outcomes. Wouldn't it be wierd if the Heroin addict in your life recovered and you didn't? Just wierd!!.
While she is in treatment she has contact with all of the information she can need or want for her recovery. They have it all right where she was at and isn't it soooo marvelous that she stopped her run and turned around and asked for help? Willingness and Honesty are the keys to recovery. Ii hope she finds the support that will encourage and support her from ever going back out again and never letting go of the hand of her Higher Power out of fear of loosing her soul and spirit again.
You know the program Princess go practice it. (((((hugs))))) yours in love and service.
I have known two ex heroin junkies. Both of them were/are my best friends
One relapsed on alcohol and prescription pain meds and is presently in rehab. She was clean for 20 years or so but went off the deep end in her 40's. But not heroin, she swears she would never go back to that- it almost killed her.
The other died of HIV some years ago but he never relapsed, he lead a wonderful life in total recovery.
Both were total street junkies in NYC, super hard core.
No one really knows.
I think stats are for the birds, generally. Actually I do not believe in numbers at all. They were created by humans and are not natural in any way.
Let it go to HP and all will be well but you know that already. Jean
