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All (3) of you make very good points...(((((Shelly, Christy, WD)))))))
June is the 6 month the state needed for me to settle dad's debts, they make you wait 6 months so that if there is anyone out there, that my father owed money then they have till then to get ahold of me...After June, they close all his cases. and I pay the debts...
I agree that i have to get it straight in my head before I face him, but there are sooooo many OTHER things that is going on with them right now and I have just had my fill...
Today I went to thier kids school (My sons as well) , and was speaking to one of their childrens teachers and they know about my Abrother & AGF, here the kids have been getting bills from the cafe, every month since LAST YEAR, because when they 1st brought them to the school, they had to pay for lunch till they got all the "Free Lunch" papers in... Well the kids always got upset because the parents would NOT pay it, so I went and paid it today... "Just for the sake of the kids", I most likely will not even let them know that I did... AND THEN... The GF tells me that with HER Tax money, she bought a Sectional Couch.... I am sitting here SWIMMING in their debt, and that B???? buys a COUCH... when she has (2) Sitting in her living room.... So it is ALL this rolled into one big over flowing Mess that ALWAYS seems to land on MY Porch....I JUST want June to Come and Pass so I can GET ON WITH MY LIFE.... Sick & Tired of being Sick N Tired....
You don't have to wait for June Jozie....You can change at moment you know you need to. If you are still confused about the alcoholics behaviors you need to go to more meetings. The behavior is always the same...irrational and confusing. If you expect something different you are setting yourself up for another resentment.
As for why I have to wait till June is because all the bills "Currantly" are "In the Estate Of MY Father" which means since I am exutive, I am there for responsible... As for the Electric, He can't put it in his name because his girlfriends place has HIS NAME on the electric at her house because she has an outstanding bill with the electric company, and well the KIDS need heat.....so it can't be switched over, "Which the electric bill is only like $30. a month, because he can not move into the trailor until he pays a securtiy deposit to the LAND owner.. And I refuse to pay it, as for the water, WELL it is in the name of the Land "Landlord"... And because I am in liable for the trailor up till June, there for, I have to pay all debts that come with the trailor till then or come up with $1200. to MOVE the trailor... See it just keeps getting deeper and deeper... It never ends...I soooo want to call it quits, I have NOT Paid a red cent since Jan. and told him I would not... HOWEVER... if he can't get it together by June I am responsible. AND... He has court next month that will most likely send him back to jail... and if that happens then well.... I have to pay the $1200. and drag it off....
Its so frick'n confusing... I have talked to lawyers and what not and they all tell me the same things... which I know and that is that I should have never given him the trailer to begin with... And I know that now... But its too late for all the wishing now... I did avoid seeing him today, only because I was affraid my old me would come back and well most likely I would have went to jail for beat'n the crap out of my lt. 30 yr old brother... soooo For now I am tring to get some more info, to see what I can do to make sure when June comes I can walk out of this at least with a piece of my sanity still intact... I only have 2 more days to go to my F2F... Cross'n my fingers the topic is ANGER...lol...Thanks all... for taking the time to give your ESH... I soo needed it today, and tho I only got a few they were all greatly appricated.... You's always seem to pick me up when I don't have the strength... So thank you....
Love & Prayers Try'n to keep it simple... Jozie...
