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maryam


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Last post I was talking about leaving, well after finding out about him now smoking crack and the last argument when i threatened to have someome come beat on him for the treatment i was getting, He got a knife and pushed me to the otherside of room sticking the knife into the wall next to my head, and saying this is what i would do to anyone that tries to beat me up..actually i spoke to a nurse at the Va and the police were called and sourounded the house with guns drawn...was enough. they actually were misinformed and thought i was being held againt my well at knifepoint..anyway i asked him about the money taken out daily and he admitted smoking crack, i intend to turn in the guy selling it. so i have left and he continues to call my family asking why i don't call him and how hurt and surprized i haven't. i have lost everyhting i own again, furniture, my  job my insurance along with the fact that once again i am left with nothing,,oh he did give me $500. just like paying for some of the things i left behind.I felt it necessay to go out of state to family to escape him and the possibilty of running into him. when leaving he was there and begged on knee's for me to stay and how much he loves me and his life will be nothing if i go. but even in my heart i do care and maybe some love and us being together for 8 yrs. I know i had to make this choice no matter how difficult it is. The so called relationship has gone nowhere for 8 yrs, the drinking has not stopped and now the drug thing...a whole nother thing. i feel bad for him as he is alone but know i need to do this for me. i deserve better, soi now i am in florida with no job, money insurance..really sad what my life has become... will try and find a meeting here, but till then i will come on this site.thanks you so very much for that.                                                                                Mary

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maresie


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I hope you can find the time and energy to get into the program. There is a wonderful book called Getting them Sober. There are tools online you can work on at www.coping.org.  In addition you can go to meetings here and to the chat room here.  Focus on yourself right now. Whatever your boyfriend is doing he has a higher power, everyone has the opportunity to go to a NA meeting if they want to. Generally people go there freely rather than under force.  Some peole do got when they are court ordered but I have not yet heard anyone in a room they say went to a meeting because they were beaten up to go.  Some people do get to sobriety, some don't.  I no longer think I can know who will and who won't. 

Maresie.

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hotrod


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Hi Mary
Thank You for the update.  I am glad you are safe and I know you are in a painful difficult place right now. 

Please take the suggestions regarding helping yourself both here at the meetings and do locate some in your new location.

  Just remember you are not alone and in alanon you will find the help and strength you need to recover.

Please keep posting

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Jozie


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Gald that you are safe from his harm... Good for you for walking away know matter the pain... You can start over, because every day is a new day... Doesn't mean it will be easy, but with a little will power and the HP you will get were you need to go...

Keep up with your program, and get to a new F2F, and start your road all over again... You have already made great sstrides, taking care of yourself and getting out of danger of his addictiions... Be proud of your self.... Keep up the good work and the updates...

Hope you are taking in some of that Fl. sun...Love & Prayers....

Jozie

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Jean4444


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yep, MA, I needed to run and leave everything behind also...its so hard to lose everything but when physical violence enters the picture, them guys are a heck of a lot bigger than us and its time to go. I am glad that you were able to get away with your life intact. I lost all my stuff, money, home, etc. too but I did not lose my LIFE, thanks to HP and this program. We will survive and are learning to thrive, one day at a time, taking care of ourselves. All that stuff, it can be replaced. Our lives cannot. Hugs and so glad u made it out alive, J.

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Yes Mary.  Please, please do this for you.  You deserve so much more.  Reach out and grab for it.

Diva

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