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So, I was driving home last week, thinking and thinking and thinking about the path my AH is taking. His father told me he wouldn't be surprised if the A lost everything AGAIN and had to go back to their place. So I was unconsciusly working out a plan of what WE would do when HE lost everything LOL, and asking my HP to PLEASE HELP HIM!!
And something clicked and I really heard my HP's words saying "How I'm I supposed to comfort him, If you keep getting in the way"
And suddenly I realized that every time my AH was going throug a rough patch I would swoop in like Supergirl or something and SAve the Day just for my own pleasure and satisfaction. Never letting my AH go through what he had to and seek the only one that can help you when things go really bad, our HP. I was trying to be HIS HP.
Just a thought I wanted to share.
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Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable.
thank you for sharing your thoughts I got a wee reminder again from those words.
I also recently worked this out that my I was also being my ex partners higher power for many years. It's refreshing to find out so much about yourself through the power of al-anon
I'd also like to share my thought on what I see my higher power as at the moment. It seems it works for me to pray for those people I in the past worried endlessly about instead of always looking for a solution to their problems.
I joined al-anon 6 months ago and the going to meeting and contributing by reading thoughts for today and listening to people share has given me something very special
Thank you al-anon
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Courage is the discovery that you may not win, and trying when you know you can lose.
WOW can I relate to the "Swooping in and making it all better Super Women".... I was soooo That person before MIP & Al-anon... I am so glad to be growing in my program...
Good for you for HEARING what the HP has been "Im sure" trying to tell you!!! lol... Your getting there... One day at a Time... I am sure you are grateful you heard this time... Let us know were ya go from here on turning it around...
My HP has found the atmospher inside my car or truck a very good place to connect up with me also. I've got no complaints. I was a swooper also. It never worked for me or the alcoholic. She continued to drink and I continued to work harder and get sicker. One of my recovery practices is (and use to be more often) that when I am faced with or struggling with a situation I have no control over is to stop what ever I am doing...stretch out my hands palms up, imagine putting my problem into my hands and then raising them both upward until they can go no further and visualize my HP taking the problem from me and my hands coming back empty. It works even in public, like a mall or crowded parking lot or sidewalk. When I needed to let go I needed to let go. There was no excuse not to practice. I've never had a stranger or other person ever ask...."Whatch doing?"
Thanks for the reminder - I do a lot less than I use to do but my weakness is when I see the AH silently angry and I perceive he is hurting or in pain - may not be reality?? But my reaction is to still swoop in to protect him in some small way out of compassion or love so I need to keep refining my detachment. Reminder that I can be in the way of HP's plan will help me have the courage to change what I can and that is me!!
I needed to hear this again, thks!
hugs, ddub
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"Choices are the hinges of destiny." Pythagoras You can't change the past, but you can change the future.
LOL, and asking my HP to PLEASE HELP HIM!!
