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I'm happy!1 I'm living alone with my daughter and feeling good. Things with my Ah are fine, I joke with him that I see him more, now that we are not living together. Also, I successfully stated rules NO drinking in my place, and No coming by drunk. And yesterday he called me drunk and I had the ability to tell him Not to come by. OMG!! I feel so good. I like how boundaries feel. They keep seeming less scary every day. Oh and today he callled SOBER and asked if he visit our daughter today. So basically I wanna say Boundaries are NOT scary and they WORK!!
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Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable.
Priscilla, Good for you! Congratulations on being able to set your boundaries and stick to them! Doesn't it feel good! Keep up the good work and going to meetings because they will continue to test those boundaries and sometimes it's easy to keep them and sometimes it's more of a struggle. I am so happy for you that your AH can still see his daughter and you have set boundaries with that, that's great!
(((((Priscilla)))) And I am happy for you too:) Boundaries are a wonderful thing yes they are and you are an inspiration to me cause I have a hard time getting them right:) So thank you....
keep coming back shelly
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Good For You!!! Way to hold your ground... It can be quite freeing once you get the hang of them :) Keep up the good work and remember to Keep coming back because... It works "if" you Work It"....
Always happy to see someone making there journey in happiness...
yes, nice work! It was so pivotal for me to have my own "space" and for the alkies to have their own space- for me, I needed to feel safe and secure and I just was not able to with an A (in recovery or not)- too unpredictable, too mean, etc. This was my choice. I love them and am happy to spend time with them but I cannot live with them and my boundaries are absolutely necessary to keep me feeling good and safe and secure! which makes me a more productive useful citizen to humanity and the greater good (HP). Big key for me, I know. if I am not freaked out, I am much happier and everyone wins (especially ME), its a no brainer! Hugs, J.
Thanks guys!! I know that there's a looong way to go still, but is wonderfull to have this site, where people understand you and know what you are going through.
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Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress. Only when it hardens does it become uncomfortable.
