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I know that by now, I should be use to my Abrothers way of life, but when he does some of things that affect his children and their happiness, I would like to just bust him...His children are always asking when they can stay so I talked them a week ago, told them to go home and ask their parents if they could stay..Well they did, and of course at that moment "Both parents agreed because well it was Saturday Night and they could go lay in the bar"... So the big day comes I try texting them ALL morning, plus the night before, (because they NEVER have any minutes)... No Response... My brother calls me about 4pm that afternoon to tell me that the kids couldn't come to stay because they took them to her mothers "To which she also lives with an AH "Ass" and the kids hate going...But if I was to go pick them up then she wouldn't keep them NEXT time... In other words, she was keeping them ALL weekend, or NOTHING... I think this is Sooo unfair to those kids, they are around A's all the time and I am not perfect but when I have the children we do things together like play games, hide & seek board games what not... When they go to the grandparents, they sit in front of a TV and listen to Grandma argue with her worthless AH...And pretty much are locked in doors because Lord forbid them have to go out side and watch them... Just makes me sick... You would think by now this crap wouldn't bother me, but it hurts me that the kids get moments like that taking away from them so BOTH their parents can get another night in the bar, "Which 85% of the time ends in them fighting with each other and one of them ending up behind bars".. Usually my brother... I don't know.... Just aggravated at the whole deal, and just wish there was something I could do, to help the kids... If my home was bigger they would be here with me, and I know I wouldn't have problem one, taking them from their parents, Hell they would probably GIVE them to me, that way they could just lay in the bars ALL the time...Thier mother already give away one of her children to her Mother because she had "atism" which didn't fit into her lifestyle as a drunk...So now her oldest daughter gets to live with a drunk'n Pap instead of a drunk'n mom... (Not my brother child)... Their two kids together are 6-8... I'm sorry to drop all this, and I know that I am to focus on myself and let him live his life, but when his life gets and entangled in mine, and my sons, it pisses me off... My son was looking for ward to spending time with his cousins. and because of my father and brother disease, I don't lie to my son, and I don't want to pull him further away from his Uncle, but I can't lie to him either about "Who & What he is"..... My son is 11....I don't know... I guess I am guess aggrivated I could just slap him... I hate to say "after all I have done for him" but ya know... If the shoe fits...I don't even know what I am looking for in this bulliten,I am just going crazy and trying to push it out before it festers and I just go knock him one.... Geeerrrrrrr................. Thanks for listening to what ever this is.... I guess this is just my 2 steps forward & it was time for 3 steps back....once more...
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Forgiveness- Isn't about forgettingwhat happened,its about Giving Up,All Hope,of a Better Past!
I have a friend who grew up with an A-mom. It was just the 2 of them, the dad left. When my friend was 10, her mom was passed out for her birthday party, amidst a group of little girls. There was no cutting cake, no singing, no opening presents. A neighbor called CYS. My friend was taken from her mom and and went to live with her grandmother. Eventually, her mom got help and went to live with the two of them. I am still friends with this woman...both of us 43. Growing up with an A made her life really hard...but thank God for the neighbor...it could have gotten worse.
I have 2 nieces I adore. My prayers go out to you.
