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Dear all, Am in London doing some research, did not get much done though, recovered from flu last week. I got all my bereaved step mother's clothes together last week and donated them to charity. I know it was not my job but the clothes were rotting in a damp cottage and she had nice clothes, so I got them done and made sure my A dad came with me as her daughters can be a bit odd with things. Am collecting her dog on sunday to come and live with me, am trepidous but the daughter he was supposed to go to did not take her and my father was getting very vicious toward the dog, she looks so glad to see me every time I call and I do call a lot that I hope all will work out the dog is 14. My A brother has re-entered my life but I have set boundaries, I don't take late calls and I have made sure that he makes his own choices. We did bring timber over during the cold snap butI would have done this for anyone vulnerable at this time. I took time in London to take in a show and and am not beating myself up over how little I got done, I got time to myself and to think and to rest, this is good for me, and I feel energised. I thank you all for your posts, I read them and they are so inspiring and helpful, Say a prayer for me about the dog, won't you, I do hope Cassie is happy with me, and if not I will ring the daughter and tell her it has not worked out and ask her to collect the dog, but first steps first right
I think it will work out with the dog. I'm praying fo you. I did not get much done over Christmas. We can't be on form all the time 24/7. You have had a tough few months.
I know I feel like I didn't get anything done a lot of the time. The thing is if you actually write down everything that you do...even if it was fun....you'll see that you do so much more than you think! I do things mindlessly because they have become ritual, little cleaning chores, ebay stuff on the side, errands, etc. Just because it's fun doesn't mean it's not doing something!
That's right. Fun stuff and resting is not wasted time. It is necessary to a healthy person. And CG is right. When I write down every little thing that I have done through the day, I usually find that I have done much mor than it would have seemed. Basic daily stuff like fixing meals every day fall off our radar, but they take time. Sometimes just keeping up with the day is enough.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
I agree with Carolina Girl. I usually write my chores down before I do them and that way I can see I've got things done instead of feeling like I haven't done anything, even though it's mostly the same chores over and over.
Maire rua,
wishing you the best with the dog and everything else. We all need some downtime sometimes.
Marie...I believe it will work out with you as it has with me regarding having and caring for a dog. Al-Anoners and dogs are easy to give and receive love with. LOL. You don't have to do anything special just be you're natural loving self and it will be okay.
My pups love to be enabled and they pay me back all the time.
