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I have been in program for awhile now and most days, anymore, are wonderful and even when not I realize I will never have another day that is EXACTLY the same, so I can work through it. Today I feel that old familiar anxiety rearing it's ugly head.....I'm a single mom, have been for pretty much my 11 1/2 year olds life. His father is absent and never has been around, but I am blessed with the support of my sis in law-her and I work together with her son and mine (they are 6mths apart in age) and somehow we keep it all together-though I have to admit there have been mornings I have "spaced" past the bus stop and taken my son halfway to work before realizing "opppssss". I was looking at my schedule for next week for my son alone (the future I know - but some aspects have to be handled/organized, etc ahead of time, especially with school age children)and I am just feeling overwelmed.....It's like EVERYDAY there is somewhere to be at such and such a time and there is NOTHING that I can cut out-no options available to just NOT be involved, and that is on top of my regular 8 hr work day and helping with my mom and trying to take care of me, my son, my own home, 3 dogs, and 4 cats (2 of which are very sick right now), and coming down off of a RX med . I'm exhausted already mentally just thinking about it all and next week is wayyyyy off.... Could really use some ESH to help me stay in the now....Need to be in the NOW really bad.....Next week will be the first "pressed" week since starting the program and I am wondering if I am up to it....... thanks for letting me share Shelly
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
I have never been a single mom , but have many friends who are and they have sharred that somedays they are just overwhelmed with the responsiblity , I always tell them to do what s in front of them and try and not project into next week , A list often helps write down the things u need to do , prioritize the list and use our slogan First things first , starting with the most important , do what u can for the day and let the rest go . be sure and scratch thru the things u ahve done , seeing those lines thru the list makes it managable , and soon the list is done . with alot less stress , am glad u have your sis in law in yor life to help u she is a bonus and def belongs on a gratitude list . Hugs and remember Easy does it . == but do it . Louise
Stuff changes, all the time! Plan all you want but I bet that half of it will change somehow...u never know so you can schedule and schedule but just be aware that its an exercise in futility half of the time. Hugs, J.
i know you must be busy with kids but try not to even be Busier in your head .. a single mom here of 19 years and have a 5 year old to boot who i feel like a single mom to as her dad is gone half the time ..
i remember one day thinking i am So busy, wow too busy.. when my thinking began to become more reasonable i began to see how i would really say.. i'm so busy but would never get anything done .. i was busy in my head.. there is a read on this somewhere in courage to change..
i know the busy isn't just in your head but the overwhelming busy may be in part due to a piece of this ..
Hi Shelly! You sound just like my bestfriend! And y'all boys are about the same age. First you must know that I don't have children. SO, I can't say that I fully understand. OH, but i see the stress she is under and my heart aches for mom and son. They are both stressed out. BUT...i'll tell you what I told her. SIMPLIFY....and DELIGATE some of those responsiblities to your son. When he gets tired of eating bologno sandwich for lunch, he will figure out how to make peanutbutter and jelly. And for heavens sake, he won't hold it against you if you don't go to every basketball practice....and soccer....and baseball...or football.... take some of his practice time for alone time for you. Take care...
I am a newly single Mom also. I mean in a way, I can relate to the absentness of my aH for the past several years of raising our son, but I am physically a single Mom since about October of last year. I can relate to how sometimes it's easy to get flustered about all the things that need to be done. Some how it all seems to work out though. We are all here and understand!!
